I was watching a reality show last night. It was a dysfunctional business, like a lot of businesses. Some employees were stealing, some hated being there at all, and others couldn’t make the tough decisions and people walked all over them. At first I was angry. How could they steal from their employer? Why is this guy on a job he obviously hates? Why is she such a wimp? Why don’t they take any responsibility?
As the show went on, I began to look at my own life; I stole from employers, maybe not money, but I loafed a lot and didn’t give them my best, I bad mouthed places that I worked at to other employees and pretty much anyone that would listen (in very subtle ways of course), I was a boss and kept employees on that I know needed to go. So I am every one of these people… we are the same.
The show’s mc made each person see that there was a higher purpose than their own selfish desires or feelings, it was about making it work…for everyone. Each needed to step up and take responsibility for their actions… or get out. It wasn’t about complying, it was about commitment and, dare I say ‘caring”.
I went to sleep last night and woke up in this morning, thinking; why am I not living the life I want, why am I giving lousy excuses for not living my dream, why am I talking trash about other people, why am I allowing people to take up space in my life when I know they shouldn’t be there?
So here’s what I saw in the show and, one more time, in my own life. First there is awareness, that I’m the problem. Second I have to pause, and feel that, own it. Third, I have to ask, ‘What is the right thing here?’ no bull. Fourth, be honest with the answer I receive. Fifth, I have to trust, by taking the action necessary toward what I received, no excuses.
These are universal principles that are always true, God keeps showing me them over and over again, in different ways, because I keep falling into the error of my old thinking. It is only from our experience of what doesn’t work that most of become willing to look at what does. (We learn best from our mistakes) In some areas we are in perfect alignment with these principles and other areas… we have a lot to learn. It’s progress not perfection.
The overriding principle that allows for growth is; it’s not about us individually. When we come from the group as a whole, whatever group that is, business, family, team, church, or whatever, it allows us to get out of our self-centeredness enough to receive inspiration from whatever is there when our egos are out of the picture.
It is living from our connection to the group that we gro-up!
Once we’ve recognized that we don’t know (first requirement)… paused and stopped thinking (second requirement)… we can lay out our concerns and ask something… other than our minds, a question. We live in a world of seeming duality, right/wrong, up/down, left/right. But we are three-part beings body, mind and soul. We have within us our connection to our source, our soul. Our source always was, always will be, and is present with us right now. When we ask our source (which contains all information that ever was or will be)… we open our minds to receive inspiration. This is not thinking. This is allowing what is there already to present itself so we can re-cognize, and express it. Our problem comes from our thinking that we know what that should look like. However, what we receive rarely looks like we think it should… because it didn’t come from our mind. It is only when we bring our body and mind into alignment with our soul that we function as we were intended by our creator.
Something to remember: the ego thinks it’s who we are and it’s fighting for its life. It is only a fictitious character that we have come to believe in. It uses our mind to convince us of its seeming reality, and it is flawless in its logic. The ego is the “thin–king” we created. It only knows the past. The data of our life experience thus far. It has conned us into thinking it’s who we are, and it doesn’t want to acknowledge any other authority. This is why the second requirement, pausing, seems so difficult. If we ask, without pausing and letting go of all thought, the ego answers, as it always does and logically re-creates the past. That is why the order form of these principles is crucial.
Asking, once we’re still, allows us to recognize the truth that is there beneath our thoughts. Principles never fail, we can only fail to apply them.
I can touch a principle, say, gratitude, and focus on it without stopping. I mean no quitting. Find the things I’m grateful for, write a gratitude list, etc., just don’t stop till I am grateful. I can do that anytime, anywhere, if I’m willing to put the effort in, and it works, every time. Why, because it’s a truth whether I am of aware of it in any given moment or not doesn’t matter, I am grateful. Gratitude is a principle. We come that way from the creator.
So I can do that anytime with any truth love, beauty, any truth. Why can’t I stay there? What is it I need to do to stay in the moment and feel that way all the time? Some say it’s not possible. I have to ask, “Says who?”. The authority of self, that’s who. It’s the only authority I’ve ever known, it’s my mind, it tells me what’s what and I’ve become so dependent on it I forget there is a higher authority… within me… there is a higher truth.
In fact, we are all trained to figure it out ourselves from the day we are born. I can’t remember anyone saying to me, “just be still, get quiet and ask in the stillness what you should do”. What I got was, “Use your head, think, figure it out, you can do it.” I missed the critical link. I am more than a mind. I have to include all of who I am, body, mind, and soul, or I am not being who I truly am. A part of me is missing and I feel it, I don’t understand it, but I feel it.
When I put a pause… before thinking, it allows for something other than my mind to be there. Call it what you want, spirit, inspiration, God, savior, or consciousness. Whatever name you give to it, you can only know it by experience. Pausing, stopping all action and thoughts, makes space for that experience. It is only when we attempt to quiet the mind that we see how addicted to thinking we are. Don’t let that stop you. Here’s a suggestion from CwG that I have pasted on my computer:
Just close your eyes. Breathe. Stop whatever you’re doing for ten seconds and find the Silence.
Visit the Quiet. Just for ten seconds. Do it six times today. That’s all it takes.
One minute, divided into six parts. Go ahead. Do it now.
I find it works every time I apply it. Each experience I have applying it changes me… even though my mind can’t see it… and it will never agree.
Most of my life, I never question what my mind tells me. I like this, I don’t like that, this person is okay and that one’s an asshole. I never questioned the authority of self… the mind that tells me what’s what. What I find is that when I do question “my truth” I open up to a much larger truth.
I use my eyesight to navigate in the world and my perception is always accurate, to me. You might say it’s my ‘truth’. But that doesn’t make it “the” truth, it’s just my truth based on my life experiences. My perception of what “the” truth is, is often distorted by some of my experiences. We each have our own perceptions based on our experiences. But, you have to admit, our perception is sometimes distorted. Our distorted perception has put scales in front of our eyes. So let’s call our perception the ‘distorted truth’.
Underneath the distorted truth is apparent truth? Apparent truth is what is apparently so. Let’s say it’s 80 degrees outside. That may be hot for some, nice for others, comfortable, uncomfortable, whatever but the apparent truth, it’s 80 degrees. My eyesight, my opinion, or my distorted truth, has no effect on apparent truth, it’s just what it is, 80 degrees. When I let go of the consciousness of what my distorted truth is telling me, I rise to what is apparently true and, I come closer to “the” truth.
With Awareness …that there just might be something more than apparent truth …and the willingness to Pause …and let go of what seems apparent, I can let go of my worldly perception… (more scales from my eyes)… and begin to look from a new perspective …insight …Inner sight! Instead of use my eyes with all their scales, I can Ask for a new perception, a new vision of what the truth is. And I shall Receive.
Why? Because, deep down in every man, woman, and child is the fundamental idea of God… in the end, it is only there that it can be found. When I ask that part of me for the new perception …what I then receive …doesn’t come from my mind …or the world’s view …it comes from the core of my being… God. Creation itself. And It’s always brand new… so it rarely seems like the right answer to me …because it didn’t come from my mind.
The question is not, will I receive. The question is always, will I Trust enough to take action on what I receive, in spite of my eyesight and what seems apparent?
Do I ever misinterpret the messages I receive? Absolutely, but this is a method I have found that really works! Even when I make mistakes, it builds my relationship with my creator. Not a theoretical or intellectual one …an actual living …day-to-day …personal relationship that grows stronger each day. And as the scales fall away, I begin to remember …who …I am. And then I remember who you are …we are no longer separate or apart from …we are a part of the whole. I find the word ‘holy’ a very interesting word. My definition is: The conscious recognition that we are equal parts of the one whole. We are One.
So anytime you don’t like how you’re feeling, try … Taking it A.P.A.R.T. … so it can come together!
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I woke up around 5:45 am and started planning my day, the problems I might have, how to get it all done, the regular stuff. I managed to mumble some kind of a prayer about God directing my thinking. When I rolled over, my girlfriend was standing there wishing me a good morning….
She lives a few houses away. I told her a hundred times I need my space in the morning and I felt the anger start. I wanted to yell at her and throw her out, but I ‘knew’ something else… she climbed into bed (fully clothed) and wrapped herself around me… I asked God, what is going on here? I just let, what is, be. I started to feel something in my stomach… it felt good… this woman loved me. Here she is offering me all this love and I want to throw her out. Isn’t this what I’ve wanted my whole life… someone to just love me unconditionally? I started to ask myself, what the hell is wrong with me. I hadn’t noticed until then that when I first woke up I wasn’t feeling anything at all… it was all thought, and none of it very good.
But now, I was feeling good… I rolled over to face her… I couldn’t help but notice how beautiful she was… how good she felt in my arms. She got me out of my head with all its crazy thoughts, and into my body. When I’m centered in my body, I feel good… when I feel good, I thank God for the feeling… when I thank God for the feeling, I appreciate life… when I appreciate life, I see the beauty of life everywhere.
And then it hit me, what my problem was and always has been… I’m so dam selfish! I’d rather hang onto my own miserable thoughts than allow myself to experience the love that is constantly being offered to me by my creator through whatever is present in the moment. I hold onto my own ideas at all costs. It’s like I thumb my nose at the gift of life and try to create my own version of heaven, which usually turns out to be hell.
I read recently that the highest thoughts are those that contain joy… the highest words are those that contain truth… the highest feelings are those that we call love… these things are of God… anything else is not of God. It matters not where you begin… one always leads to the other… thought… word… deed…
When she offered me the love and I let myself have it, my feelings changed… when my feelings changed, I told her how wonderful she was… when I told her the truth, my thoughts changed and I couldn’t even remember what I was worried about… I was living in God’s world… full of appreciation and love. And by leaving the sex out there was no danger of perverting this moment into something selfish.
I recognized that it is only my selfish pursuit of my misdirected thoughts that produce my own misery. Thank you God for that awareness!
I was told recently to lighten up… not the first time I’ve heard that… but something was different. Wear bright colors… laugh a lot… cut out the red meat and junk food… eat more veggies… try to eat organic. Let me ask you a question; who doesn’t know that? It only makes sense, everybody knows that.
Another thing that came up for me at the same time was meditation… hell I been trying to meditate off and on all my life… again, everybody knows this stuff is good for you. Seems like my life, the universe, God, situations, something, keeps coming back to these simple things… and basically I’ve said ‘no’ to them on a pretty regular basis, not that I want to admit to it, but honestly that’s what I’ve been doing.
This time, so far, I started to look at it a little differently… maybe cause I’ve spent a very small time in meditation, I don’t know. Anyway, a title to a movie I’ve never seen keeps popping up in my head; The Unbearable Lightness of Being. In my meditations I’ve been ‘seeing’ that ideas flow from the source of everything… they are like air, actually lighter than air… shear lightness of being… these ideas of love and light, light up in my mind… my mind works with the light and makes it dense, kind of solidifies ideas into thoughts… the thoughts get more dense as they move into the physical world called my body… my body then moves the dense material around to create what my thought of the idea looks like, creating the world as I see it. It’s creation working through me, creating my reality.
When I have struggles or ‘problems’ in my life it is because I am trying to make changes from the dense material world, but that is not how creation works. Life gets heavy, problems seem real, life is a struggle, I can’t feel the joy, the love, I feel separated from God, and I create a distorted reality, I don’t have time to eat right, so I eat, fast junk food, I’m always busy trying to catch up so I don’t have time to meditate or pray. Even when I do pray it’s often selfish or done hastily in compliance mode.
So I need to remember it’s all light and love. Creation allows for it to become a physical experience. When I’m in pain or problems I just need to lighten it up… be enlightenment… and not get caught up in distorted reality. In the world I can do those things I already know to do; eat right, see the colorfulness of life, and laugh at the joy underneath it all and most of all… live from the unbearable lightness of being! Thank you God!!