I was watching a reality show last night. It was a dysfunctional business, like a lot of businesses. Some employees were stealing, some hated being there at all, and others couldn’t make the tough decisions and people walked all over them. At first I was angry. How could they steal from their employer? Why is this guy on a job he obviously hates? Why is she such a wimp? Why don’t they take any responsibility?
As the show went on, I began to look at my own life; I stole from employers, maybe not money, but I loafed a lot and didn’t give them my best, I bad mouthed places that I worked at to other employees and pretty much anyone that would listen (in very subtle ways of course), I was a boss and kept employees on that I know needed to go. So I am every one of these people… we are the same.
The show’s mc made each person see that there was a higher purpose than their own selfish desires or feelings, it was about making it work…for everyone. Each needed to step up and take responsibility for their actions… or get out. It wasn’t about complying, it was about commitment and, dare I say ‘caring”.
I went to sleep last night and woke up in this morning, thinking; why am I not living the life I want, why am I giving lousy excuses for not living my dream, why am I talking trash about other people, why am I allowing people to take up space in my life when I know they shouldn’t be there?
So here’s what I saw in the show and, one more time, in my own life. First there is awareness, that I’m the problem. Second I have to pause, and feel that, own it. Third, I have to ask, ‘What is the right thing here?’ no bull. Fourth, be honest with the answer I receive. Fifth, I have to trust, by taking the action necessary toward what I received, no excuses.
These are universal principles that are always true, God keeps showing me them over and over again, in different ways, because I keep falling into the error of my old thinking. It is only from our experience of what doesn’t work that most of become willing to look at what does. (We learn best from our mistakes) In some areas we are in perfect alignment with these principles and other areas… we have a lot to learn. It’s progress not perfection.
The overriding principle that allows for growth is; it’s not about us individually. When we come from the group as a whole, whatever group that is, business, family, team, church, or whatever, it allows us to get out of our self-centeredness enough to receive inspiration from whatever is there when our egos are out of the picture.
It is living from our connection to the group that we gro-up!
Once we’ve recognized that we don’t know (first requirement)… paused and stopped thinking (second requirement)… we can lay out our concerns and ask something… other than our minds, a question. We live in a world of seeming duality, right/wrong, up/down, left/right. But we are three-part beings body, mind and soul. We have within us our connection to our source, our soul. Our source always was, always will be, and is present with us right now. When we ask our source (which contains all information that ever was or will be)… we open our minds to receive inspiration. This is not thinking. This is allowing what is there already to present itself so we can re-cognize, and express it. Our problem comes from our thinking that we know what that should look like. However, what we receive rarely looks like we think it should… because it didn’t come from our mind. It is only when we bring our body and mind into alignment with our soul that we function as we were intended by our creator.
Something to remember: the ego thinks it’s who we are and it’s fighting for its life. It is only a fictitious character that we have come to believe in. It uses our mind to convince us of its seeming reality, and it is flawless in its logic. The ego is the “thin–king” we created. It only knows the past. The data of our life experience thus far. It has conned us into thinking it’s who we are, and it doesn’t want to acknowledge any other authority. This is why the second requirement, pausing, seems so difficult. If we ask, without pausing and letting go of all thought, the ego answers, as it always does and logically re-creates the past. That is why the order form of these principles is crucial.
Asking, once we’re still, allows us to recognize the truth that is there beneath our thoughts. Principles never fail, we can only fail to apply them.
I can touch a principle, say, gratitude, and focus on it without stopping. I mean no quitting. Find the things I’m grateful for, write a gratitude list, etc., just don’t stop till I am grateful. I can do that anytime, anywhere, if I’m willing to put the effort in, and it works, every time. Why, because it’s a truth whether I am of aware of it in any given moment or not doesn’t matter, I am grateful. Gratitude is a principle. We come that way from the creator.
So I can do that anytime with any truth love, beauty, any truth. Why can’t I stay there? What is it I need to do to stay in the moment and feel that way all the time? Some say it’s not possible. I have to ask, “Says who?”. The authority of self, that’s who. It’s the only authority I’ve ever known, it’s my mind, it tells me what’s what and I’ve become so dependent on it I forget there is a higher authority… within me… there is a higher truth.
In fact, we are all trained to figure it out ourselves from the day we are born. I can’t remember anyone saying to me, “just be still, get quiet and ask in the stillness what you should do”. What I got was, “Use your head, think, figure it out, you can do it.” I missed the critical link. I am more than a mind. I have to include all of who I am, body, mind, and soul, or I am not being who I truly am. A part of me is missing and I feel it, I don’t understand it, but I feel it.
When I put a pause… before thinking, it allows for something other than my mind to be there. Call it what you want, spirit, inspiration, God, savior, or consciousness. Whatever name you give to it, you can only know it by experience. Pausing, stopping all action and thoughts, makes space for that experience. It is only when we attempt to quiet the mind that we see how addicted to thinking we are. Don’t let that stop you. Here’s a suggestion from CwG that I have pasted on my computer:
Just close your eyes. Breathe. Stop whatever you’re doing for ten seconds and find the Silence.
Visit the Quiet. Just for ten seconds. Do it six times today. That’s all it takes.
One minute, divided into six parts. Go ahead. Do it now.
I find it works every time I apply it. Each experience I have applying it changes me… even though my mind can’t see it… and it will never agree.
Most of my life, I never question what my mind tells me. I like this, I don’t like that, this person is okay and that one’s an asshole. I never questioned the authority of self… the mind that tells me what’s what. What I find is that when I do question “my truth” I open up to a much larger truth.
I use my eyesight to navigate in the world and my perception is always accurate, to me. You might say it’s my ‘truth’. But that doesn’t make it “the” truth, it’s just my truth based on my life experiences. My perception of what “the” truth is, is often distorted by some of my experiences. We each have our own perceptions based on our experiences. But, you have to admit, our perception is sometimes distorted. Our distorted perception has put scales in front of our eyes. So let’s call our perception the ‘distorted truth’.
Underneath the distorted truth is apparent truth? Apparent truth is what is apparently so. Let’s say it’s 80 degrees outside. That may be hot for some, nice for others, comfortable, uncomfortable, whatever but the apparent truth, it’s 80 degrees. My eyesight, my opinion, or my distorted truth, has no effect on apparent truth, it’s just what it is, 80 degrees. When I let go of the consciousness of what my distorted truth is telling me, I rise to what is apparently true and, I come closer to “the” truth.
With Awareness …that there just might be something more than apparent truth …and the willingness to Pause …and let go of what seems apparent, I can let go of my worldly perception… (more scales from my eyes)… and begin to look from a new perspective …insight …Inner sight! Instead of use my eyes with all their scales, I can Ask for a new perception, a new vision of what the truth is. And I shall Receive.
Why? Because, deep down in every man, woman, and child is the fundamental idea of God… in the end, it is only there that it can be found. When I ask that part of me for the new perception …what I then receive …doesn’t come from my mind …or the world’s view …it comes from the core of my being… God. Creation itself. And It’s always brand new… so it rarely seems like the right answer to me …because it didn’t come from my mind.
The question is not, will I receive. The question is always, will I Trust enough to take action on what I receive, in spite of my eyesight and what seems apparent?
Do I ever misinterpret the messages I receive? Absolutely, but this is a method I have found that really works! Even when I make mistakes, it builds my relationship with my creator. Not a theoretical or intellectual one …an actual living …day-to-day …personal relationship that grows stronger each day. And as the scales fall away, I begin to remember …who …I am. And then I remember who you are …we are no longer separate or apart from …we are a part of the whole. I find the word ‘holy’ a very interesting word. My definition is: The conscious recognition that we are equal parts of the one whole. We are One.
So anytime you don’t like how you’re feeling, try … Taking it A.P.A.R.T. … so it can come together!
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I was told recently to lighten up… not the first time I’ve heard that… but something was different. Wear bright colors… laugh a lot… cut out the red meat and junk food… eat more veggies… try to eat organic. Let me ask you a question; who doesn’t know that? It only makes sense, everybody knows that.
Another thing that came up for me at the same time was meditation… hell I been trying to meditate off and on all my life… again, everybody knows this stuff is good for you. Seems like my life, the universe, God, situations, something, keeps coming back to these simple things… and basically I’ve said ‘no’ to them on a pretty regular basis, not that I want to admit to it, but honestly that’s what I’ve been doing.
This time, so far, I started to look at it a little differently… maybe cause I’ve spent a very small time in meditation, I don’t know. Anyway, a title to a movie I’ve never seen keeps popping up in my head; The Unbearable Lightness of Being. In my meditations I’ve been ‘seeing’ that ideas flow from the source of everything… they are like air, actually lighter than air… shear lightness of being… these ideas of love and light, light up in my mind… my mind works with the light and makes it dense, kind of solidifies ideas into thoughts… the thoughts get more dense as they move into the physical world called my body… my body then moves the dense material around to create what my thought of the idea looks like, creating the world as I see it. It’s creation working through me, creating my reality.
When I have struggles or ‘problems’ in my life it is because I am trying to make changes from the dense material world, but that is not how creation works. Life gets heavy, problems seem real, life is a struggle, I can’t feel the joy, the love, I feel separated from God, and I create a distorted reality, I don’t have time to eat right, so I eat, fast junk food, I’m always busy trying to catch up so I don’t have time to meditate or pray. Even when I do pray it’s often selfish or done hastily in compliance mode.
So I need to remember it’s all light and love. Creation allows for it to become a physical experience. When I’m in pain or problems I just need to lighten it up… be enlightenment… and not get caught up in distorted reality. In the world I can do those things I already know to do; eat right, see the colorfulness of life, and laugh at the joy underneath it all and most of all… live from the unbearable lightness of being! Thank you God!!
Did you ever have someone who was very difficult for you to deal with, yet they just seemed to be there, always. For some reason you didn’t throw them away. Everyone else did… but you just can’t seem to do it. It’s like you can see their goodness when others can’t. So, you learn to protect yourself… yet still be there for them. You always tell them the truth you see in them; you learn that anger doesn’t work here. Why would you get angry at a sick friend? Often you think; ‘they’re draining the life right out of me’ and then you remember… there is no end to love, it’s infinite, it’s like the air we breathe. I never worry about having enough; it’s everywhere… so you dig a little deeper. It’s a mystery to you, where the words come from, but somehow, even when you don’t think you have any… they’re there. At times like these the gratitude just wells up inside you and you recognize what a gift this person is to you because you can feel that loving presence become who you are… unconditional love… no requirements… agape love… and you weep like a baby.
As you learn to detach yourself and just offer the truth with no expectations… sometimes they change; the ones that can… and then there are the other type that can’t change. They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way. One way or another, they leave you. But they are never really gone. They have become a part of you… a very powerful and important part, for they have helped you remember unconditional love, the only true love, agape love, God love. Once we remember who we truly are, we are never satisfied with anything else, and it changes us forever.
I had such a person in my life, maybe many, but this one I didn’t throw away. He is gone… yet he remains, still helping me wake up from my nightmare of separation. I remember him coming over to my house time and time again… the endless phone calls, sometimes ten or more a day… the opportunities he gave me to remember who I am… every time I answered the call. How my mind would struggle to surrender the story I made up about how much work this guy was… I’m sure I wasn’t always loving… he’d often ask me “why do you put up with me Paulie”. And God would use me to talk to him about unconditional love… again.
Like most things in life, I didn’t know what was happening when it happened; I only got to look at in retrospect. I hurt a lot of people in my life, some on purpose but mostly it was collateral damage done by an injured mind. In recovery, I try to repair the damage done as I go through the steps, and this is as it should be, but the real amends happens when I’m not looking. God works in mysterious ways his wonders to perform. I got to make amends for some of my past through my friend. As It turned out he got to make some amends to his family and me through a life insurance policy. He gave me the ability to make financial amends to the people I owe, and pay my portion of my daughter’s college education, something I would not have been able to do otherwise.
I used to wonder: Why is it that I don’t go to my creator for everything in my life instead of trying to ‘figure it out’ in my mind? Well… here I am… three months after my friend passed away, in a Conversations with God retreat, paid for by the money from my friend… listing to God speaking through Neale Walsch… explaining exactly why that is. I put it here in my own words:
In order for God to experience himself in.. as… and through me… there needs to be a conceptual field that contains the opposite of that. Where my body and mind are at, in relation to my soul (which knows exactly who I am), determines how strong (how seemingly real) the conceptual field appears in order for me to become aware of divinity… as me. Whatever it takes for me to wake up, and recognize my divinity, whether its seemingly major problems… or maybe just the memory of that feeling of separation. The sooner I realize… “it’s just the field I’m looking at, not the reality” … the sooner I live… and recognize divinity… but without the conceptual field… there is nothing other than divinity… all there is… so divinity would not be able to experience itself as that. Divinity needs the appearance of something that is not to have experience of what it is.
By loving my friend, which seemed to me to be a problem at first, I now see that he represented the field to me. Divinity, as me could see that his bi-polar behavior was not who he was, it was just his conceptual field. As I began to look for (real eyes) the divinity in him, and ask for the divinity in me for the words to speak to him… the field would collapse… often bringing one or both of us to tears. For me, the tears were of ecstasy of the presence of God that moved through us. And in that moment we are both healed, only in that moment of now. But it is always now.
When I ask God why anyone would have to have bi-polar disorder… I saw that we all do… we go from believing in separation to realization of our divinity all the time… we’ve been living in a world of duality and we are evolving to real eyes we are triad beings, soul mind and body. My mind is not for figuring out my soul, it is for carrying out my soul’s agenda. The truth is my friend represented the conceptual field for everyone he came in contact with; just as we all do for each other.
As another wonderful “bringer of the light”, Stephen Covey, says; “between stimulus and response there is a space, in that space lies my freedom to choose my response, in my response is my freedom and my happiness”.
The soul’s agenda… it really is ‘the Only Thing That Matters’. Thank you Neale!