You Can’t Help It

I was talking with a friend today about walking in the real world, not the world as we see it with our physical eyes, but in the world as our creator sees it.  We had a conversation around asking for the right perception as we go through today’s day.  We both committed to ask for the presence that is who ‘I am’, our soul, our spirit, our savior, or just plain something (#1 name for God) to guide us and show us how to walk in this day… each step.

Now I know I won’t be able to do that perfectly, probably, if I’m  lucky (Gods nickname), I’ll remember to ask for that presence a few times today.  But, if I don’t quit, I can’t fail.  If I do it today as often as I can and I do it one day at a time, I’ll build an awareness of what it feels like.  As we walked together in this conversation, my friend said to me “I feel like I’m walking in the Garden of Eden”.  And we were, because when I let go of the “things” of the world (all my thoughts), the truth underlying them presents itself in its fullness and the world, as it was intended by its creator is revealed.

As we were saying our goodbyes, my friend was thanking me and I was thanking him and he was saying how grateful he was for our little talk.  I shouted out to him “you can’t help it”.  And you can’t help it.  The truth does not need my help.  I need to align myself with it.  When I do, I can see the world new in each moment, when I don’t and I try to help it along, I get caught in the mire and lose my awareness of love’s presence.  That’s okay, I’m going to do that, but as often as I can, I can let go and ask for that presence to be there and it will because the truth is always true, everywhere, and in all ways.  Thank you very much!

When are you going to enjoy your life?

In the documentary film, ‘I am’ by director Tom Shadyac, he asks the question, “what is wrong with the world and how do we fix it?”  That is without doubt the most important question we can ask, but where and how do we start?

I have another question, “When am I going to be happy?”, actually that’s not the question, because I’m happy when I get what I think I want, but it never lasts.  The real question is “when am I going to be joyful”, full of joy?  And the answer is… when I re-cognize that ‘who’ “I am”, is already joyous!  Joy is not outside of me.  Love is not outside of me.  Passion is not outside of me.  Nothing that is real is outside of me.  My only problem is that I have failed to recognize these things, but that does not mean they are not there.  Well if that’s true then why don’t I feel it, you ask?

First we have to recognize the way we’re doing it doesn’t work.  It’s easy to see, the world as we made it, isn’t working.  We’re going to have to do things a little differently.  We’re going to need a method that works.

Where’d it all come from?

Look around at everything you see.  How did it all come about?  If you look, you’ll find that everything started with an idea.  The idea got developed in the mind of whatever created it.  And finally became something physical by some action in the material world.  Everything that ever came into existence came as a result of that formula, including us.  So there is an order form to creation.  If there is an order form to creation then there must be an order form for our lives as well… and it’s the same  form (creation in-form-a-tion).

What’s wrong with the world?

What’s wrong with the world?  We never developed our relationship to common sense.  What is our common sense you ask?  Our common sense is the “idea” instilled (inwardly stilled) in us, of who we are, our connection to our source.  We “thought” we could disconnect ourselves from that which created us and we made ourselves into mini-gods, each trying to run the world, according to our various beliefs.  Yet none of our imaginings has any effect on that which created us.

How do we learn?

As children, we learned that our resistance to gravity had no effect on it, but by co-operating with it, it allowed us to accomplish many things.  So too, we can learn that by co-operating with our creator’s idea of who we are, there is no limit to what we can accomplish.  (“experience is the best teacher”)

How do we change?

This is transformational living, living from a new perspective, and the old beliefs don’t die easy, so we need a system that we can utilize to get us back on track when we wander off in our imaginings.  We will need to …. take it A.P.A.R.T…. so it can come together.

A.P.A.R.T. is a method that can be used to co-operate with the system (order form) that is already present.  APART is an acronym for Awareness, Pause, Ask or acknowledge, Receive or remember, and Trust or take action.  This method can be used by anyone and will work every time, even if you don’t recognize or believe it.  Why, because these are universal truths, principles, that never fail, in the proper order.  But don’t take my word for it… try them out… try them repeatedly…. They cannot fail to connect you if you apply them in your life.  (I don’t have to believe in gravity to co-operate with it… but, it gets painful when I don’t… and my world expands when I do)

We facilitate workshops and presentations for groups or individuals to help you experience these truths.  Using metaphor, creativity, and group participation we can experience these truths in a group setting!  We were created as a group and so we gro-up together!

For more information or to schedule an event contact:

Paul:  951 751-7541                      rethynkit@gmail.com                  Noel: 404 482-6428

Common Sense

Why do we call it common sense anyway… it doesn’t seem to be so common?  It’s just doing the right thing.  I know I have common sense… but I’ve been in survival mode for so long… I mix up  my instincts with what, I sense, is right.  At first I couldn’t see how that happened.  But, once I became willing to seriously look at it, it wasn’t so hard to understand.  But I have to tell you… my instincts sure don’t want to look at it.

I started with some basics, things I just know.  I know no one should go hungry… be homeless… or go without medical care… nobody had to tell me that.  But “what can one person do?” my mind reasoned.  It’s so overwhelming… just asking the question feels so… hopeless.  My instincts pop up and justify my not even looking at the question…  and so, I feel bad for “those people” who are struggling… if I have extra (a very relative term), I’m willing to help out… so long as I don’t have to give up my stuff… or any of “my” time.  Such is the way I fall into “us vs. them” mentality.  Now I ask you, ‘where’s the “common” in that?’.

That’s what instinctual living does.  I use my reasoning mind to try to make sense out of my behavior… but my ‘common sense’ knows better.  Why?  Because common sense doesn’t belong to me… it’s what’s common in all of us…  it’s what makes us human beingsnot just human doings.  It’s the sense of unity that we all have… whether we like it or not.

Growing up, I was taught to… rise above the crowd… get to the top… distinguish myself… be a winner… get ahead… and basically, be anything but… ‘common’.  Without common sense as my guide I tried to live by my instincts… and the instincts drove me further away from my commonality with my fellow-man.  The further I separated myself from my fellows… the less my life made sense.  Coming to ‘my senses’ means remembering what is common to all of humanity, and living from that place.  It requires no thought!

“So what is this thing called humanity anyway?”, I asked myself.  A group of people.  And I began to look at the “group” instead of my individual life.  Then I looked up the word group and found a couple of definitions:

  1. many components gathered together for a purpose
  2. many parts that make up a whole.

From this new perspective, we’re all just “a” part of the human group.  We are… many components gathered together for a purpose… that make up the whole… humanity.  It doesn’t require agreement… it only requires co-operation.  It simple, is.  We can choose not to cooperate with it… just like we can choose not to cooperate with gravity… but, eventually  it gets very painful…

So how do we begin to live using our common sense?

“taking it A.P.A.R.T. … so it can come together” is a method that can be used by anyone to learn to reconnect with what’s been missing in our lives, what we have in common.  Knowing about common sense is one thing, living by it requires tools, because we’ve built our character instinctively, not intuitively.  There are many methods that offer these ‘tools’.  Here is a simple one that really works:

A.wareness that something isn’t right.  P.ause and let go of everything I think I know, become still.  A.sk that part of me that is common to all the other parts.  R.eceive via inspiration, what is there already.  T.rust and take action on that inspiration.

Give it a try… try it a few times… try it when it hurts… slow it down… it works every time… the only time it doesn’t work is when I don’t apply it!

  If you’d like more information on how to apply this method in your life, or to schedule a workshop, email us at:  rethynkit@gmail.com

Common sense is what makes us sane.  Living by anything else is just plain insanity.

How to Change the World

We are a nation, a world for that matter, of consumers and to that extent we are all self-absorbed.  Our own desires come first.  We have lost our connection to our group, the group called human beings.

I’m not saying we can’t have stuff, but how much is enough?  Instead of looking at those that have more and asking how can I get that?  We might try looking at those that have less and ask, how can I best help balance it out a bit, in some small way?  And I don’t mean donating cash to try to buy our way out of looking at the problems the world faces.  I’m talking, actually going and looking at one of those problems face to face and asking, what would the right thing to do be?  How might I make a tiny difference?

I believe we don’t look or ask those questions because we can’t see an answer at first glance, so we don’t think there is one.  Then we get overwhelmed and refuse to look because it hurts.  We go back to our separated lives and try to buy more stuff to fill the hole where the hurt is; the new car, home, TV, cell phone, or whatever.  It seems to work for a while, but if you’re honest with yourself, you know it doesn’t last.  We always need a better one or the new one that just came out.

Imagine this:

Whenever we want to make a purchase for x amount, we are required to go look at one of society’s problems first.  Really look at the problem and ask ourselves what should we do about this?  From all the ideas that people come up with, only those that would benefit everyone get entered into a database.  The database stores them by topic and everyone that looks at that topic has access to all of the existing ideas.  Each person then would either add to an existing idea or present a new one.  In this way we would find solutions together based on what benefits everyone in the group…  all of us.

If you still decide to buy the new whatever it is, you would have at least taken a serious look at how you might help, which starts the change from self-centered to group centered behavior.  Even that little bit helps connect us to each other.  No one is going to come up with an answer…  it must come from all of us!

It’s a beginning….

Ask and You Shall Receive

We need to be re-mind-ed because we appear to have forgotten who we are.  Everyone knows no one should be homeless… no one should go hungry… no one should hurt another, never mind kill.  Everyone knows no one should live in fear… everyone knows we need to help each other… that no one should go without healthcare.  No one needs to tell you these things, it doesn’t require a degree or any education at all…  we all know them…. Why… because we are all…. Each of us…. A part… not apart… or separate from… but an equal part… of the one whole called humanity.   We have given or very souls over to our Thin King…..  the very shallow, limited part of us we call our thinking.  Our thin-king is only one part of who we are… when we forget that, we get in trouble…  When we forget that… we can be tricked, manipulated, used and disposed off… in a New York minute.   Isn’t it time we woke up?   No matter how conned and fused we are, we always know what truth is.  The truth can’t be created or destroyed it simple is … and the truth will set you free.

If I know these truths like it says in our constitution.. we hold these truths to be self-evident… what part of us knows them… it surely isn’t our minds…. At least not the ones we’ve been living from… so there must be something else present in us that knows these truths.

Instead of asking our minds what we can do and coming up with that same old “nothing”…  why not ask the part that does know what to do, how we can change?   Ask and you shall receive, the man said.   Well ask!  Ask yourself…  but first ask the question, “Who are you?”.  Then be still and know I am God.  I am a live in you.  I am your very life expressing myself in as and through you.  I am with you always and in all ways.  I am the way, the truth, and the light.  Did you think I was kidding?

You have been listening to a storage device I gave you to function in the world called your mind.  Your mind is full of artificial intelligence but it is not who I am.  I am all you are but you are not all I am.  I have and will continue to offer you all I am.  When you co-operate with me, you feel Good, when you choose otherwise you don’t.  It is that simple!  You cannot change who I am but you can have a larger experience of it by co-operating with other expressions of who I am.

It’s not going to happen overnight.   You can’t just throw the whole world in reverse but you know you can’t believe the lies anymore… that there’s nothing you can do…  that’s just the way it is…  what can one person do… etc.

It all begins with a conversation I have with whoever’s listening when I’m by myself.  Can’t I just go into my heart of hearts and ask my creator…  what would you have me do?…  how do I be the person I came here to be?…  never mind all the stuff I think I know…  can I just start fresh today, this day?…  can you in-spire me with a brand new idea and give me the courage to share it with others?

Of course I can!  And you can too…   even if no one else does!  Change happens from the inside out!

Get Yourself Connected:  Connecting with who I am connects me:  … to my creator  … to others  … to the community  … to the world!

Used to Be and Used to Have

I am not who I “used to be”.  I ‘used’ people, places, and things to ‘be’ who I “thought” I should be.  When the things I used were taken away, nothing was left.  Or so I thought.  Turns out, who “I am” is infinitely more than I ever thought I could be.  Most of us are afraid of our own power, not our personal power but the real power that operates in us, through us, and as us.  How could that be, you ask?

Imagine, if you will, all of us, each and every one, constantly being inspired with new thoughts and ideas from our creator.  As children we began to receive these inspirations.  Remember now, they’re brand new, never been on the planet before.  We try to express these ideas to someone, our parents, maybe.  But to them, these ideas sound strange, they never heard anything like them before of course, because they’re new.  Our parents go to their brain (the database of info) and the brain says, ‘ridiculous, nothing like that here’.  So your parents turn to you and say something like “don’t be ridiculous, that’s a crazy idea”.

We don’t want to be looked at as crazy, so we push the idea away…  this doesn’t just happen one time…  over and over again…  don’t be stupid… you’re crazy…  that will never work… or, my personal favorite “who do you think you are?”.  All of this of course makes us question the truth moving through us and we begin to separate ourselves from who we are and we learn to shut of the inspiration.  We can’t really do this but we can dismiss it as “ridiculous” instantly, using our brain’s programmed logic.  Internally, we “know” something is missing and we begin the game of trying to find that ‘something’ outside of ourselves.

I “used to have” a lot of things.  I “used” people, places, and things so I could “have” what I thought would make me happy (although my ego was very good at hiding this).  If only I had more money, property, prestige, more people loved me, more sex, ad infinitum.  You get the picture.  It never works for very long.

The bottom line, we’re afraid.  Afraid of who we really are.  Afraid of a power, that power, that I am presence that is our very source, the power that beats our heart and breathes our breath, call it what you will.  We “think” the power is outside of ourselves.  In that character we made from our imagined reality, we feel unworthy of its presence.  We try to project that power outside of our self and then judge our self with our own projection.  Insane, isn’t it. (so our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making… although we usually don’t think so)  Check your own track record.  See if it isn’t true in your life.

The character (ego) that we made doesn’t give up easily.  It will try to deny these accusations.  Like weeds, the ego just wants to survive, but if we don’t want weeds in our yard or our ego running our life anymore we have to recognize, and get rid of them every time they pop up.  But just like ridding the yard of weeds doesn’t create the yard we desire, we have to put the things we love in, so we can create that life we desire.  It’s important to remember, however:  there’s only One Garden.

The creativity that is who I am needs to co-operate with the creativity of that I am presence in you to produce what our creator intended us to experience.  Every aspect of creation is equally important and necessary.  You already know this.  I am simple re-minding you in case you temporarily forgot, so you can re-mind me when I do.

The Twelve Steps are a method I apply that can remove the weeds from my garden, there are countless others.  If you seek out a method you will find it.  Seek out an experienced gardener that uses that method and learn from them.  You may even create your own method although that’s a lot more difficult.  If you do, do it with a friend, because the ego can’t see itself.

In moments of self-doubt, when the world tells you you’re crazy and nothing makes sense, and you don’t think you’ll make it, and you can’t remember anything you’ve ever read:

Be still and know, “I am God!” and “I am with you always!”

We Are Love

I’ve heard it said that if we could actually be touched by God we wouldn’t be able to handle it.  It would overwhelm our physical body and blow out our senses.  Too much love to handle?  Could there be such a thing?  It’s hard to conceive of that much love.  Perhaps that’s what happens to us when we suddenly, and often for no apparent reason, have an emotional recognition of beauty or love and we’re touched by the spirit or God within.  It overwhelms us.  We jump into our heads to try to figure out what happened and we dismiss it as a ‘miracle’.

Our heads tell us we are separate from that love and so, unworthy of it.  We won’t consider the possibility that, that love,  is who we really are.  We believe our minds when they present us with all the seeming evidence as to why we aren’t love.  We cannot grasp that love goes way beyond the capacity of the mind to understand it, and so we live in an imagined reality.  We actually choose to go into the darkness of something that isn’t true rather than accept the truth, we are love.  Our choice doesn’t change the truth however; it does block our awareness of it.

Let me share an experience I had recently:  I was struggling with some financial matters, taxes, the AC went out in my car, a traffic fine, an unstable income, etc.  I intellectually know that I’m connected to my creator and can’t possibly lose that connection because it is who I am but the seeming evidence of a lack of money was all I could see.  In fact that was what my mind was obsessing about.  However it didn’t stop there.  Once I went into the darkness of what my mind was telling me, it got worse.  My mind literally attacked me with the ‘evidence’ of, not only was I broke, I was a failure, everybody knew it and it was just a matter of time before I’m homeless.  (In the absence of truth, the illusion seems real)

It shook me.  I’d been there before many times and knew it wasn’t true but still I doubted the truth of who I am.  I got up the next morning and wanted to act out in a way that I knew wouldn’t help.  Instead, I began a conversation with my higher Self.  I asked the question “What is the real problem here?”   I picked up a pen and paper and what came to me was:

“The only problem I ever have is… I miss my Self”.

My higher Self is the piece (peace) of God in me.  When I walk into the darkness of my mind’s illusions, I forget who I am and … I miss my Self.  I am literally “beside my Self” and I think I’m someone I’m not.

The sudden recognition of the truth, that I am love, flooded over me, washing away all my illusions as I wept in joy (enjoy) … it was so powerful…    my mind told me it was too much… I just laughed… it just kept coming… and I let it… laughing and crying as I walked down the road.

Nothing in my outer world changed, yet my entire being changed.  The grace of God is not outside of me and when I let go, I experience it as my life.

It was then that the words from the method I practice came to mind:

out of every season of grief or suffering, when the hand of God seemed heavy or even unjust, new lessons for living were learned, new resources of courage were uncovered, and that finally, inescapably, the conviction came that God does “move in a mysterious way His wonders to perform”.

Two Questions

Some characteristics of what makes something exclusive are:  differences, separation, closed, denying, better/less, exceptional, restrictive, excluded, conditional, deserving, and judgmental.

Exclusivity produces:  pride, greed, envy, jealousy, sloth, gluttony, lust.              

Some characteristics of what makes something inclusive are:  similarities, together, open, accepting, equal, ordinary, un-restrictive, included, unconditional, serving, and non-judgmental.

Inclusivity produces:  equality, acceptance, courtesy, kindness, re-cognition, compassion, and empathy.

The more I operate on exclusivity, the more I sep-a-rate myself from you and I become what exclusivity produces.  The more I operate from inclusivity the more I re-cognize our oneness and I become what inclusivity produces.

Is there something we don’t fully understand about God and about Life, the understanding of which would change everything?  Asking that, or any one of ‘the seven questions’ will bring up our core beliefs, some of which are hereditary, they are in our genes, in our culture, but we need to ask them so we can be who we came here to be.   We need a new culture, a new starting point to look at how we live, who we want to be, and what kind of world do we really want to live in.

Here are two questions you can ask right now that don’t require any thinking…  nobody has to tell you the answer… you already know …  maybe not in your mind, but in the very core of who you are…

Is God exclusive or inclusive… and …shouldn’t we be the same?

For more on the seven questions:  http://www.theglobalconversation.com/

Monkey Business

The twelve steps not only saved my life but they have given me a method of living that is more than I ever imagined I could have and I’m just scratching the surface! Sometimes it seems so serious, people die and terrible looking things happen to people every day.  But it’s just all a bunch of monkey business!

This is for all my twelve step brothers and sisters:

Step One:  I become aware that the monkeys (my obsessive thoughts or behaviors) are out of my control and I pause.  Step Two: I search and research with an open mind, asking a power greater than my mind; please quiet the monkeys down, and it does.  Step Three:  I make a decision, from my own experiences, to surrender the quieting of the monkeys to that power.  Step Four:  (after the monkeys are quieted down) I put my pen on the paper and the monkeys run down my arm onto the paper.  Step Five:  I then look at the individual monkeys objectively, with a friend.  Step Six:  I ask, the power I found in two and three to remove the monkeys I’m ready, willing, and able to let go of.  Step Seven:  I ask that power to show me what to do instead of monkey-ing around.  Step Eight:  I make a list of anyone damaged by the monkeys.  Step Nine:  I correct, the best I can, the monkey business of the past.  Step Ten:  the monkeys had babies and now they’re growing up, this step treats them as they grow.  Step Eleven:  keeps the downloads (how to live monkey free) coming from the inner-net, via inspiration, on a daily basis.  Step Twelve:  I recognize and accept that the monkeys are everywhere but my new character isn’t in the monkey business… and I help others find a power that can treat their monkeys.

My experience is you’ll either go ape over this information or it will drive you bananas!

Pick a Path / Connect to the Group

What is the importance of a group and what is a group anyway?  When I asked those questions in meditation, or, I should say those questions were presented in meditation.  They really weren’t my questions, I’d never asked them before.  So why was I asking them now?  hmm….

A group, by definition is:  many components that make up a whole or many things gathered together for a purpose.  If something is missing from a group, it’s not the same group.  It’s not the way it was intended.  Intended by who; whoever created it!

In the case of a car, if the AC isn’t working is it still a car?  But it’s not the same car is it?  It’s not the way it was intended by whoever designed the car.  It still works great otherwise, but we always know, especially on a hot day, something is missing.  Most likely we will get it fixed as soon as possible because we want it to be as it was intended.

So awareness that something is missing is the first thing that happens when a group isn’t whole.  This is a principle found in all groups.  If a component of the group is missing, we intuitively know something is missing.  We may be able to get along without it, but on some level, we still know, something is missing.

The second thing that happens, when something is missing in a group is, the remaining components have to make up for the missing part and they try to do things they were never intended to do.  In the case of our car, with us in the car, we become part of the new group called the car and us.  With no AC, we put the windows down in the hope that the air will cool us off, maybe we adjust the vents, put the fan on, etc., but nothing really works and we miss the AC.

The third thing that happens when a group is not complete is we reach outside the group to try to find something to fill the hole.  We get a small fan and mount it on the dashboard, get some ice water or a cold drink, but nothing really works.  We will always know the AC is missing.  That’s a man-made group, a car.

What about naturally occurring groups?  Plants, animals, humans, these are not man-made groups, but they function the same.  Let’s just look at the human group;  many components that make up the group called humanity for the purpose of being human.  Humans are the only group that thinks it can separate itself from the group it belongs to.  We have black and white, christian and muslim, fat and skinny, old and young, you get the picture…  Every time we create an imaginary ‘sub’ group, we get further and further away from our connection to the group we belong to and intuitively we know something is missing.  We have gotten so dis-connected from our group, we have forgotten who we are, human beings.  In our attempt to find a solution outside the group, we grab for more of everything, in the hope we will fill the hole, we become human doings, not beings.

We are three-part beings, each of us. Spirit (the animating principle in living things), mind, and body, our group.  We have over-developed our minds and our bodies but we failed to develop our spiritual lives.  Intuitively we know something is missing in our group.  In our car example, we can see what is missing so we know what it is.  We can’t see with our eyes what our spirit looks like, yet it is the most important part, our animating principle.  We can’t really lose our connection, but we can, ‘think’ we can.

Isn’t it about time!  About time to get connected.  There are many paths we can utilize to connect with our spirit, many methods we can use, we don’t have to re-invent the wheel here!  What we do have to learn, however,  is when we go off in the wrong direction.  It’s not that difficult.  We get off-track when we use our minds to try to decide purpose, instead of our hearts.  We act on what we already know in our little pea brains instead of relying on our connection to our source, with infinite intelligence.  Our minds developed an ego that says “I’m all you got”, but the ego doesn’t know what it doesn’t know.

In the case of our car metaphor, don’t you think the guy that designed the car would be the best one to contact if the car isn’t operating properly?  He would at least know how to put you in touch with what to do or who to see to solve the problem.

Why is it that we don’t contact our creator and ask “hey, our group is screwed up, we forgot we are all equal parts of the one whole, humanity.  What can I do today, how can I co-operate with the other members of humanity?”  When we complain we become aware of the problem, (we need to stop all action, get quiet, ask, receive, and taking action on what we receive), when we co-operate the solution presents itself. 

No matter how smart we think we are, the problem is in the mind, and you can’t fix the mind using the mind.  Whatever path you choose, look for similarities, what makes us alike, not the differences.  The differences are only there so we can see what needs to change in us.  We have to start with a new perception for any real change occur.

So… pick a path… your path… but ask your soul what the words mean for you… don’t question the answer you get… your soul knows what is right for you in each moment… don’t be afraid… you are not alone… and allow others their path… rejoice, together in the similarities and make the connection!