God uses everything to talk to me… and once in awhile I hear.

I was watching a reality show last night.  It was a dysfunctional business, like a lot of businesses.  Some employees were stealing, some hated being there at all, and others couldn’t make the tough decisions and people walked all over them.  At first I was angry.  How could they steal from their employer?  Why is this guy on a job he obviously hates?  Why is she such a wimp?  Why don’t they take any responsibility?

As the show went on, I began to look at my own life; I stole from employers, maybe not money, but I loafed a lot and didn’t give them my best, I bad mouthed places that I worked at to other employees and pretty much anyone that would listen (in very subtle ways of course), I was a boss and kept employees on that I know needed to go.  So I am every one of these people… we are the same.

The show’s mc made each person see that there was a higher purpose than their own selfish desires or feelings, it was about making it work…for everyone.  Each needed to step up and take responsibility for their actions… or get out.  It wasn’t about complying, it was about commitment and, dare I say ‘caring”.

I went to sleep last night and woke up in this morning, thinking;  why am I not living the life I want, why am I giving lousy excuses for not living my dream, why am I talking trash about other people, why am I allowing people to take up space in my life when I know they shouldn’t be there?

So here’s what I saw in the show and, one more time, in my own life.  First there is awareness, that I’m the problem.  Second I have to pause, and feel that, own it.  Third, I have to ask, ‘What is the right thing here?’ no bull.  Fourth, be honest with the answer I receive.  Fifth, I have to trust, by taking the action necessary toward what I received, no excuses.

These are universal principles that are always true, God keeps showing me them over and over again, in different ways, because I keep falling into the error of my old thinking.  It is only from our experience of what doesn’t work that most of become willing to look at what does.  (We learn best from our mistakes) In some areas we are in perfect alignment with these principles and other areas… we have a lot to learn.  It’s progress not perfection.

The overriding principle that allows for growth is; it’s not about us individually.  When we come from the group as a whole, whatever group that is, business, family, team, church, or whatever, it allows us to get out of our self-centeredness enough to receive inspiration from whatever is there when our egos are out of the picture.

It is living from our connection to the group that we gro-up!

Creation or distortion?

I was told recently to lighten up… not the first time I’ve heard that… but something was different.  Wear bright colors… laugh a lot… cut out the red meat and junk food… eat more veggies… try to eat organic.   Let me ask you a question;  who doesn’t know that?  It only makes sense, everybody knows that.

Another thing that came up for me at the same time was meditation… hell I been trying to meditate off and on all my life… again, everybody knows this stuff is good for you.  Seems like my life, the universe, God, situations, something, keeps coming back to these simple things… and basically I’ve said ‘no’ to them on a pretty regular basis, not that I want to admit to it, but honestly that’s what I’ve been doing.

This time, so far, I started to look at it a little differently… maybe cause I’ve spent a very small time in meditation, I don’t know.  Anyway, a title to a movie I’ve never seen keeps popping up in my head; The Unbearable Lightness of Being.  In my meditations I’ve been ‘seeing’ that ideas flow from the source of everything… they are like air, actually lighter than air… shear lightness of being… these ideas of love and light, light up in my mind…  my mind works with the light and makes it dense, kind of solidifies ideas into thoughts… the thoughts get more dense as they move into the physical world called my body… my body then moves the dense material around to create what my thought of the idea looks like, creating the world as I see it.  It’s creation working through me, creating my reality.

When I have struggles or ‘problems’ in my life it is because I am trying to make changes from the dense material world, but that is not how creation works.  Life gets heavy, problems seem real, life is a struggle, I can’t feel the joy, the love, I feel separated from God, and I create a distorted reality, I don’t have time to eat right, so I eat,  fast junk food, I’m always busy trying to catch up so I don’t have time to meditate or pray.  Even when I do pray it’s often selfish or done hastily in compliance mode.

So I need to remember it’s all light and love.  Creation allows for it to become a physical experience.  When I’m in pain or problems I just need to lighten it up… be enlightenment… and not get caught up in distorted reality.  In the world I can do those things I already know to do;  eat right, see the colorfulness of life, and laugh at the joy underneath it all and most of all… live from the unbearable lightness of being!  Thank you God!!

Amend: I am-end… closure, the past tense of amen

Did you ever have someone who was very difficult for you to deal with, yet they just seemed to be there, always.  For some reason you didn’t throw them away.  Everyone else did… but you just can’t seem to do it.  It’s like you can see their goodness when others can’t.  So, you learn to protect yourself… yet still be there for them.  You always tell them the truth you see in them; you learn that anger doesn’t work here.  Why would you get angry at a sick friend?  Often you think; ‘they’re draining the life right out of me’ and then you remember… there is no end to love, it’s infinite, it’s like the air we breathe.  I never worry about having enough; it’s everywhere…  so you dig a little deeper.   It’s a mystery to you, where the words come from, but somehow, even when you don’t think you have any…  they’re there.  At times like these the gratitude just wells up inside you and you recognize what a gift this person is to you because you can feel that loving presence become who you are… unconditional love… no requirements… agape love…  and you weep like a baby.

As you learn to detach yourself and just offer the truth with no expectations… sometimes they change; the ones that can… and then there are the other type that can’t change.  They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way.  One way or another, they leave you.   But they are never really gone.  They have become a part of you… a very powerful and important part, for they have helped  you remember unconditional love, the only true love, agape love, God love.  Once we remember who we truly are, we are never satisfied with anything else, and it changes us forever.

I had such a person in my life, maybe many, but this one I didn’t throw away.  He is gone… yet he remains, still helping me wake up from my nightmare of separation.  I remember him coming over to my house time and time again…  the endless phone calls, sometimes ten or more a day… the opportunities he gave me to remember who I am… every time I answered the call.  How my mind would struggle to surrender the story I made up about how much work this guy was…  I’m sure I wasn’t always loving… he’d often ask me “why do you put up with me Paulie”.  And God would use me to talk to him about unconditional love… again.

Like most things in life, I didn’t know what was happening when it happened; I only got to look at in retrospect.  I hurt a lot of people in my life, some on purpose but mostly it was collateral damage done by an injured mind.  In recovery, I try to repair the damage done as I go through the steps, and this is as it should be, but the real amends happens when I’m not looking.  God works in mysterious ways his wonders to perform.  I got to make amends for some of my past through my friend.  As It turned out he got to make some amends to his family and me through a life insurance policy. He gave me the ability to make financial amends to the people I owe, and pay my portion of my daughter’s college education, something I would not have been able to do otherwise.

I used to wonder: Why is it that I don’t go to my creator for everything in my life instead of trying to ‘figure it out’ in my mind?   Well… here I am… three months after my friend passed away, in a Conversations with God retreat, paid for by the money from my friend…  listing to God speaking through Neale Walsch… explaining exactly why that is.  I put it here in my own words:

In order for God to experience himself in.. as… and through me… there needs to be a conceptual field that contains the opposite of that.  Where my body and mind are at, in relation to my soul (which knows exactly who I am), determines how strong (how seemingly real) the conceptual field appears in order for me to become aware of divinity… as me.  Whatever it takes for me to wake up, and recognize my divinity, whether its seemingly major problems… or maybe just the memory of that feeling of separation.  The sooner I realize…  “it’s just the field I’m looking at, not the reality” … the sooner I live… and recognize divinity… but without the conceptual field… there is nothing other than divinity… all there is… so divinity would not be able to experience itself as that.  Divinity needs the appearance of something that is not to have experience of what it is.

By loving my friend, which seemed to me to be a problem at first, I now see that he represented the field to me.  Divinity, as me could see that his bi-polar behavior was not who he was, it was just his conceptual field.  As I began to look for (real eyes) the divinity in him, and ask for the divinity in me for the words to speak to him… the field would collapse… often bringing one or both of us to tears.  For me, the tears were of ecstasy of the presence of God that moved through us.  And in that moment we are both healed, only in that moment of now.  But it is always now.

When I ask God why anyone would have to have bi-polar disorder… I saw that we all do… we go from believing in separation to realization of our divinity all the time… we’ve been living in a world of duality and we are evolving to real eyes we are triad beings, soul mind and body.  My mind is not for figuring out my soul, it is for carrying out my soul’s agenda.  The truth is my friend represented the conceptual field for everyone he came in contact with; just as we all do for each other.

As another wonderful “bringer of the light”, Stephen Covey, says;  “between stimulus and response there is a space, in that space lies my freedom to choose my response, in my response is my freedom and my happiness”.

The soul’s agenda… it really is ‘the Only Thing That Matters’.  Thank you Neale!

When are you going to enjoy your life?

In the documentary film, ‘I am’ by director Tom Shadyac, he asks the question, “what is wrong with the world and how do we fix it?”  That is without doubt the most important question we can ask, but where and how do we start?

I have another question, “When am I going to be happy?”, actually that’s not the question, because I’m happy when I get what I think I want, but it never lasts.  The real question is “when am I going to be joyful”, full of joy?  And the answer is… when I re-cognize that ‘who’ “I am”, is already joyous!  Joy is not outside of me.  Love is not outside of me.  Passion is not outside of me.  Nothing that is real is outside of me.  My only problem is that I have failed to recognize these things, but that does not mean they are not there.  Well if that’s true then why don’t I feel it, you ask?

First we have to recognize the way we’re doing it doesn’t work.  It’s easy to see, the world as we made it, isn’t working.  We’re going to have to do things a little differently.  We’re going to need a method that works.

Where’d it all come from?

Look around at everything you see.  How did it all come about?  If you look, you’ll find that everything started with an idea.  The idea got developed in the mind of whatever created it.  And finally became something physical by some action in the material world.  Everything that ever came into existence came as a result of that formula, including us.  So there is an order form to creation.  If there is an order form to creation then there must be an order form for our lives as well… and it’s the same  form (creation in-form-a-tion).

What’s wrong with the world?

What’s wrong with the world?  We never developed our relationship to common sense.  What is our common sense you ask?  Our common sense is the “idea” instilled (inwardly stilled) in us, of who we are, our connection to our source.  We “thought” we could disconnect ourselves from that which created us and we made ourselves into mini-gods, each trying to run the world, according to our various beliefs.  Yet none of our imaginings has any effect on that which created us.

How do we learn?

As children, we learned that our resistance to gravity had no effect on it, but by co-operating with it, it allowed us to accomplish many things.  So too, we can learn that by co-operating with our creator’s idea of who we are, there is no limit to what we can accomplish.  (“experience is the best teacher”)

How do we change?

This is transformational living, living from a new perspective, and the old beliefs don’t die easy, so we need a system that we can utilize to get us back on track when we wander off in our imaginings.  We will need to …. take it A.P.A.R.T…. so it can come together.

A.P.A.R.T. is a method that can be used to co-operate with the system (order form) that is already present.  APART is an acronym for Awareness, Pause, Ask or acknowledge, Receive or remember, and Trust or take action.  This method can be used by anyone and will work every time, even if you don’t recognize or believe it.  Why, because these are universal truths, principles, that never fail, in the proper order.  But don’t take my word for it… try them out… try them repeatedly…. They cannot fail to connect you if you apply them in your life.  (I don’t have to believe in gravity to co-operate with it… but, it gets painful when I don’t… and my world expands when I do)

We facilitate workshops and presentations for groups or individuals to help you experience these truths.  Using metaphor, creativity, and group participation we can experience these truths in a group setting!  We were created as a group and so we gro-up together!

For more information or to schedule an event contact:

Paul:  951 751-7541                      rethynkit@gmail.com                  Noel: 404 482-6428

Self-evident Truths

We hold these truths to be Self-Evident… that all men are created equal…but why don’t we live that way?  The self we’ve been using is the smaller self.  It’s the person we think we are, with all the vast intelligence and self-centered, ego fed crap that we say we “believe”.  The illusive character behind the scenes that causes all our problems.  The mind powered computer that disconnects us from the truth of who we are, with all of it’s logic, schemes, and plans.  And yet, with all that.. we all, still know… at least on some level…no one should go hungry… we shouldn’t hurt each other.  Basic truths, we all know, but not from our mind, the source of the smaller self… but from our Soul… the higher Self.

It doesn’t take a genius to see we are all disconnected from our souls.  We’ve gone so far over board in developing our intellect, we’ve totally forgotten, who we really are.   Self-Evident truths never change… but we can refuse to re-cognize them… which we have all done… otherwise we’d be living them.  To go up against the norm is tough… it’s easier, we think, at least for the time being, to just go along with the game… make sure I get my share (although it’s always a little short of what I think I want)… and not think about how unbalanced it is.  But it’s getting late for all of us.   We are killing our chances of surviving as a species.  Oh, I know, it sounds so dramatic!  But the truth is so simple… we just won’t apply it!

It’s gonna take all of us, but it starts with just a few… how do we get connected?  We have been living apart for so many generations…. how do we go from living apart to being a part?  Equal parts of the One whole.

My friend Noel and I were inspired to create a workshop series on just how to re-member(become a member once again) of who we really are.  We call it: taking it A.P.A.R.T. so it can come together.  Living from Self-Evident truths is a lot easier than “thinking about it”.  When we be who we are, what we do is in harmony… when we think we’re what we’re not, we only do harm.

We have a unique and fun way of re-presenting truths in which participants actual experience them…  it’s not just information…  it’s application.  And that makes all the difference!

If you’d like to try a workshop send us your email and we’ll put you on our mailing list for workshops in your area.  And if you’re in the southern California area and would like to do a workshop for your organization, event, or group, please, email me your information and I’d be happy to talk to you about what we do.  paul@possidude.com

It’s Time to … get yourself connected!

Recreation (take five)

Here’s what five minutes of meditation brought me this morning.

My thought life is unmanageable.  There is no way I can be satisfied by what my mind comes up with by itself.  What does that mean?  It means I am more than my mind.  Who I am is a three-part being, soul, mind, and body.  Because I never developed my soul, I try to figure out my life with my mind alone… bypass my soul…  and take action with my body.  I’m constantly chasing my tail.  I have to let go of my thoughts and allow who(?) I am, to be there.  The spiritual man.

Nothing I know from the neck up will save me.  What am I being saved from?  My mis-taken beliefs of who, “I think”, I am!

I get quiet…  use my words… to ask that presence… that is who… I am… to stop my thoughts… move into my heart…  feel that presence beating my heart…  breathing my breath.  When I feel that presence…  I am open to receive…   ideas…  flowing from my source… which inspires (inwardly spirits) my mind…  to create that which I am here to create.  My mind… is myend… of the one mind (of God).  When I pause…  and re-member who, I am…  creation expresses itself through me…  to create…  in harmony with other myends…  the world…  as creation intends it to be.

Now that I am in my heart…  inspirit-a-tion is flowing in…  as…  and through me.  I can take action…  using my body and mind, in the physical world…  to put these words on paper… to re-mind you…  to re-member…  who you are.  However, I’m still new at this.  I have an undisciplined mind… it runs on its own… most of the time… I disconnect from inspiration… the source of my creation… all day long…  and try to live on myend power alone.  When that happens…  I experience pain… discomfort… negativity… I have temporarily forgotten who I am.  I need you…whoever you are…  to re-mind me… of who… I am.  We are not a-lone, we are all-one!  We need… each… other.   Let’s co-operate and re-create together…  the world…  as it was always intended to be.

Join us for a little recreation… as we utilize percussion instruments in a drum circle setting to re-cognize, how to get, and stay, connected… both  individually… and collectively… to the one whole…

Send your email address to paul@possidude.com to get on our mailing list.  We’ll let you know where, in the southern California area, you can “get yourself connected”.

Till then just… take five……

How to Change the World

We are a nation, a world for that matter, of consumers and to that extent we are all self-absorbed.  Our own desires come first.  We have lost our connection to our group, the group called human beings.

I’m not saying we can’t have stuff, but how much is enough?  Instead of looking at those that have more and asking how can I get that?  We might try looking at those that have less and ask, how can I best help balance it out a bit, in some small way?  And I don’t mean donating cash to try to buy our way out of looking at the problems the world faces.  I’m talking, actually going and looking at one of those problems face to face and asking, what would the right thing to do be?  How might I make a tiny difference?

I believe we don’t look or ask those questions because we can’t see an answer at first glance, so we don’t think there is one.  Then we get overwhelmed and refuse to look because it hurts.  We go back to our separated lives and try to buy more stuff to fill the hole where the hurt is; the new car, home, TV, cell phone, or whatever.  It seems to work for a while, but if you’re honest with yourself, you know it doesn’t last.  We always need a better one or the new one that just came out.

Imagine this:

Whenever we want to make a purchase for x amount, we are required to go look at one of society’s problems first.  Really look at the problem and ask ourselves what should we do about this?  From all the ideas that people come up with, only those that would benefit everyone get entered into a database.  The database stores them by topic and everyone that looks at that topic has access to all of the existing ideas.  Each person then would either add to an existing idea or present a new one.  In this way we would find solutions together based on what benefits everyone in the group…  all of us.

If you still decide to buy the new whatever it is, you would have at least taken a serious look at how you might help, which starts the change from self-centered to group centered behavior.  Even that little bit helps connect us to each other.  No one is going to come up with an answer…  it must come from all of us!

It’s a beginning….