Asking: The Third Requirement (principle)

Once we’ve recognized that we don’t know (first requirement)…  paused and stopped thinking (second requirement)… we can lay out our concerns and ask something… other than our minds, a question.  We live in a world of seeming duality, right/wrong, up/down, left/right.  But we are three-part beings body, mind and soul.  We have within us our connection to our source, our soul.  Our source always was, always will be, and is present with us right now. When we ask our source (which contains all information that ever was or will be)… we open our minds to receive inspiration.  This is not thinking.  This is allowing what is there already to present itself so we can re-cognize, and express it.  Our problem comes from our thinking that we know what that should look like.  However, what we receive rarely looks like we think it should… because it didn’t come from our mind.  It is only when we bring our body and mind into alignment with our soul that we function as we were intended by our creator.

Something to remember:  the ego thinks it’s who we are and it’s fighting for its life.  It is only a fictitious character that we have come to believe in.  It uses our mind to convince us of its seeming reality, and it is flawless in its logic.  The ego is the “thin–king” we created.  It only knows the past.  The data of our life experience thus far.  It has conned us into thinking it’s who we are, and it doesn’t want to acknowledge any other authority.  This is why the second requirement, pausing, seems so difficult.  If we ask, without pausing and letting go of all thought, the ego answers, as it always does and logically re-creates the past.  That is why the order form of these principles is crucial.

Asking, once we’re still, allows us to recognize the truth that is there beneath our thoughts.  Principles never fail, we can only fail to apply them.

Pausing: The Second Requirement (principle)

I can touch a principle, say, gratitude, and focus on it without stopping.  I mean no quitting.  Find the things I’m grateful for, write a gratitude list, etc., just don’t stop till I am grateful.  I can do that anytime, anywhere, if I’m willing to put the effort in, and it works, every time.  Why, because it’s a truth whether I am of aware of it in any given moment or not doesn’t matter, I am grateful.  Gratitude is a principle.  We come that way from the creator.

So I can do that anytime with any truth love, beauty, any truth.  Why can’t I stay there?  What is it I need to do to stay in the moment and feel that way all the time?  Some say it’s not possible.  I have to ask, “Says who?”.  The authority of self, that’s who.  It’s the only authority I’ve ever known, it’s my mind, it tells me what’s what and I’ve become so dependent on it I forget there is a higher authority… within me… there is a higher truth.

In fact, we are all trained to figure it out ourselves from the day we are born.  I can’t remember anyone saying to me, “just be still, get quiet and ask in the stillness what you should do”.  What I got was, “Use your head, think, figure it out, you can do it.”  I missed the critical link.  I am more than a mind.  I have to include all of who I am, body, mind, and soul, or I am not being who I truly am.  A part of me is missing and I feel it, I don’t understand it, but I feel it.

When I put a pause… before thinking, it allows for something other than my mind to be there.  Call it what you want, spirit, inspiration, God, savior, or consciousness.  Whatever name you give to it, you can only know it by experience.  Pausing, stopping all action and thoughts, makes space for that experience.  It is only when we attempt to quiet the mind that we see how addicted to thinking we are.  Don’t let that stop you.  Here’s a suggestion from CwG that I have pasted on my computer:

Just close your eyes.  Breathe.  Stop whatever you’re doing for ten seconds and find the Silence.

Visit the Quiet.  Just for ten seconds.  Do it six times today.  That’s all it takes.

One minute, divided into six parts.  Go ahead.  Do it now.

I find it works every time I apply it.  Each experience I have applying it changes me… even though my mind can’t see it… and it will never agree.

The Core of Selfishness

I woke up around 5:45 am and started planning my day, the problems I might have, how to get it all done, the regular stuff.  I managed to mumble some kind of a prayer about God directing my thinking.  When I rolled over, my girlfriend was standing there wishing me a good morning….

She lives a few houses away.  I told her a hundred times I need my space in the morning and I felt the anger start.  I wanted to yell at her and throw her out, but I ‘knew’ something else… she climbed into bed (fully clothed) and wrapped herself around me… I asked God, what is going on here?  I just let, what is, be.  I started to feel something in my stomach… it felt good… this woman loved me.  Here she is offering me all this love and I want to throw her out.  Isn’t this what I’ve wanted my whole life… someone to just love me unconditionally?  I started to ask myself, what the hell is wrong with me.  I hadn’t noticed until then that when I first woke up I wasn’t feeling anything at all… it was all thought, and none of it very good.

But now, I was feeling good…  I rolled over to face her… I couldn’t help but notice how beautiful she was… how good she felt in my arms.  She got me out of my head with all its crazy thoughts, and into my body.  When I’m centered in my body, I feel good… when I feel good, I thank God for the feeling… when I thank God for the feeling, I appreciate life… when I appreciate life, I see the beauty of life everywhere.

And then it hit me, what my problem was and always has been… I’m so dam selfish!  I’d rather hang onto my own miserable thoughts than allow myself to experience the love that is constantly being offered to me by my creator through whatever is present in the moment.  I hold onto my own ideas at all costs.  It’s like I thumb my nose at the gift of life and try to create my own version of heaven, which usually turns out to be hell.

I read recently that the highest thoughts are those that contain joy… the highest words are those that contain truth… the highest feelings are those that we call love… these things are of God… anything else is not of God.  It matters not where you begin… one always leads to the other… thought… word… deed…

When she offered me the love and I let myself have it, my feelings changed… when my feelings changed, I told her how wonderful she was… when I told her the truth, my thoughts changed and I couldn’t even remember what I was worried about… I was living in God’s world… full of appreciation and love.  And by leaving the sex out there was no danger of perverting this moment into something selfish.

I recognized that it is only my selfish pursuit of my misdirected thoughts that produce my own misery.  Thank you God for that awareness!

Amend: I am-end… closure, the past tense of amen

Did you ever have someone who was very difficult for you to deal with, yet they just seemed to be there, always.  For some reason you didn’t throw them away.  Everyone else did… but you just can’t seem to do it.  It’s like you can see their goodness when others can’t.  So, you learn to protect yourself… yet still be there for them.  You always tell them the truth you see in them; you learn that anger doesn’t work here.  Why would you get angry at a sick friend?  Often you think; ‘they’re draining the life right out of me’ and then you remember… there is no end to love, it’s infinite, it’s like the air we breathe.  I never worry about having enough; it’s everywhere…  so you dig a little deeper.   It’s a mystery to you, where the words come from, but somehow, even when you don’t think you have any…  they’re there.  At times like these the gratitude just wells up inside you and you recognize what a gift this person is to you because you can feel that loving presence become who you are… unconditional love… no requirements… agape love…  and you weep like a baby.

As you learn to detach yourself and just offer the truth with no expectations… sometimes they change; the ones that can… and then there are the other type that can’t change.  They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way.  One way or another, they leave you.   But they are never really gone.  They have become a part of you… a very powerful and important part, for they have helped  you remember unconditional love, the only true love, agape love, God love.  Once we remember who we truly are, we are never satisfied with anything else, and it changes us forever.

I had such a person in my life, maybe many, but this one I didn’t throw away.  He is gone… yet he remains, still helping me wake up from my nightmare of separation.  I remember him coming over to my house time and time again…  the endless phone calls, sometimes ten or more a day… the opportunities he gave me to remember who I am… every time I answered the call.  How my mind would struggle to surrender the story I made up about how much work this guy was…  I’m sure I wasn’t always loving… he’d often ask me “why do you put up with me Paulie”.  And God would use me to talk to him about unconditional love… again.

Like most things in life, I didn’t know what was happening when it happened; I only got to look at in retrospect.  I hurt a lot of people in my life, some on purpose but mostly it was collateral damage done by an injured mind.  In recovery, I try to repair the damage done as I go through the steps, and this is as it should be, but the real amends happens when I’m not looking.  God works in mysterious ways his wonders to perform.  I got to make amends for some of my past through my friend.  As It turned out he got to make some amends to his family and me through a life insurance policy. He gave me the ability to make financial amends to the people I owe, and pay my portion of my daughter’s college education, something I would not have been able to do otherwise.

I used to wonder: Why is it that I don’t go to my creator for everything in my life instead of trying to ‘figure it out’ in my mind?   Well… here I am… three months after my friend passed away, in a Conversations with God retreat, paid for by the money from my friend…  listing to God speaking through Neale Walsch… explaining exactly why that is.  I put it here in my own words:

In order for God to experience himself in.. as… and through me… there needs to be a conceptual field that contains the opposite of that.  Where my body and mind are at, in relation to my soul (which knows exactly who I am), determines how strong (how seemingly real) the conceptual field appears in order for me to become aware of divinity… as me.  Whatever it takes for me to wake up, and recognize my divinity, whether its seemingly major problems… or maybe just the memory of that feeling of separation.  The sooner I realize…  “it’s just the field I’m looking at, not the reality” … the sooner I live… and recognize divinity… but without the conceptual field… there is nothing other than divinity… all there is… so divinity would not be able to experience itself as that.  Divinity needs the appearance of something that is not to have experience of what it is.

By loving my friend, which seemed to me to be a problem at first, I now see that he represented the field to me.  Divinity, as me could see that his bi-polar behavior was not who he was, it was just his conceptual field.  As I began to look for (real eyes) the divinity in him, and ask for the divinity in me for the words to speak to him… the field would collapse… often bringing one or both of us to tears.  For me, the tears were of ecstasy of the presence of God that moved through us.  And in that moment we are both healed, only in that moment of now.  But it is always now.

When I ask God why anyone would have to have bi-polar disorder… I saw that we all do… we go from believing in separation to realization of our divinity all the time… we’ve been living in a world of duality and we are evolving to real eyes we are triad beings, soul mind and body.  My mind is not for figuring out my soul, it is for carrying out my soul’s agenda.  The truth is my friend represented the conceptual field for everyone he came in contact with; just as we all do for each other.

As another wonderful “bringer of the light”, Stephen Covey, says;  “between stimulus and response there is a space, in that space lies my freedom to choose my response, in my response is my freedom and my happiness”.

The soul’s agenda… it really is ‘the Only Thing That Matters’.  Thank you Neale!

You Can’t Help It

I was talking with a friend today about walking in the real world, not the world as we see it with our physical eyes, but in the world as our creator sees it.  We had a conversation around asking for the right perception as we go through today’s day.  We both committed to ask for the presence that is who ‘I am’, our soul, our spirit, our savior, or just plain something (#1 name for God) to guide us and show us how to walk in this day… each step.

Now I know I won’t be able to do that perfectly, probably, if I’m  lucky (Gods nickname), I’ll remember to ask for that presence a few times today.  But, if I don’t quit, I can’t fail.  If I do it today as often as I can and I do it one day at a time, I’ll build an awareness of what it feels like.  As we walked together in this conversation, my friend said to me “I feel like I’m walking in the Garden of Eden”.  And we were, because when I let go of the “things” of the world (all my thoughts), the truth underlying them presents itself in its fullness and the world, as it was intended by its creator is revealed.

As we were saying our goodbyes, my friend was thanking me and I was thanking him and he was saying how grateful he was for our little talk.  I shouted out to him “you can’t help it”.  And you can’t help it.  The truth does not need my help.  I need to align myself with it.  When I do, I can see the world new in each moment, when I don’t and I try to help it along, I get caught in the mire and lose my awareness of love’s presence.  That’s okay, I’m going to do that, but as often as I can, I can let go and ask for that presence to be there and it will because the truth is always true, everywhere, and in all ways.  Thank you very much!

When are you going to enjoy your life?

In the documentary film, ‘I am’ by director Tom Shadyac, he asks the question, “what is wrong with the world and how do we fix it?”  That is without doubt the most important question we can ask, but where and how do we start?

I have another question, “When am I going to be happy?”, actually that’s not the question, because I’m happy when I get what I think I want, but it never lasts.  The real question is “when am I going to be joyful”, full of joy?  And the answer is… when I re-cognize that ‘who’ “I am”, is already joyous!  Joy is not outside of me.  Love is not outside of me.  Passion is not outside of me.  Nothing that is real is outside of me.  My only problem is that I have failed to recognize these things, but that does not mean they are not there.  Well if that’s true then why don’t I feel it, you ask?

First we have to recognize the way we’re doing it doesn’t work.  It’s easy to see, the world as we made it, isn’t working.  We’re going to have to do things a little differently.  We’re going to need a method that works.

Where’d it all come from?

Look around at everything you see.  How did it all come about?  If you look, you’ll find that everything started with an idea.  The idea got developed in the mind of whatever created it.  And finally became something physical by some action in the material world.  Everything that ever came into existence came as a result of that formula, including us.  So there is an order form to creation.  If there is an order form to creation then there must be an order form for our lives as well… and it’s the same  form (creation in-form-a-tion).

What’s wrong with the world?

What’s wrong with the world?  We never developed our relationship to common sense.  What is our common sense you ask?  Our common sense is the “idea” instilled (inwardly stilled) in us, of who we are, our connection to our source.  We “thought” we could disconnect ourselves from that which created us and we made ourselves into mini-gods, each trying to run the world, according to our various beliefs.  Yet none of our imaginings has any effect on that which created us.

How do we learn?

As children, we learned that our resistance to gravity had no effect on it, but by co-operating with it, it allowed us to accomplish many things.  So too, we can learn that by co-operating with our creator’s idea of who we are, there is no limit to what we can accomplish.  (“experience is the best teacher”)

How do we change?

This is transformational living, living from a new perspective, and the old beliefs don’t die easy, so we need a system that we can utilize to get us back on track when we wander off in our imaginings.  We will need to …. take it A.P.A.R.T…. so it can come together.

A.P.A.R.T. is a method that can be used to co-operate with the system (order form) that is already present.  APART is an acronym for Awareness, Pause, Ask or acknowledge, Receive or remember, and Trust or take action.  This method can be used by anyone and will work every time, even if you don’t recognize or believe it.  Why, because these are universal truths, principles, that never fail, in the proper order.  But don’t take my word for it… try them out… try them repeatedly…. They cannot fail to connect you if you apply them in your life.  (I don’t have to believe in gravity to co-operate with it… but, it gets painful when I don’t… and my world expands when I do)

We facilitate workshops and presentations for groups or individuals to help you experience these truths.  Using metaphor, creativity, and group participation we can experience these truths in a group setting!  We were created as a group and so we gro-up together!

For more information or to schedule an event contact:

Paul:  951 751-7541                      rethynkit@gmail.com                  Noel: 404 482-6428

Money?

Money is the value we give things based on a world that believes it can own what it did not create.  It starts with the ego’s idea of separation, my house, my car, my job, my partner, etc.  The word “my” separates us.  We see ourselves as different and go about life identifying the differences and forget who we are, (equal parts of the whole).  Interesting that we use the word “money” to try and combine the separated self ‘my’ and the connected Self ‘one’ to create an illusionary value.  No matter how we try we cannot separate ourselves from who we are.  There is only One and that One simply is ….

we either have (my) or we are (one)

It’s time to re-member who we are…  re-mind each other…  and act accordingly!

Just Give Up! (and begin again, new)

Aren’t you tired of working so hard…  trying to do better… trying to change… trying to get ahead… ahead of what?  Who?  Where are you going?  Do you think you’ll be happy when and if you get there?  It’s exhausting, isn’t it?  Is life supposed to be this hard?   Why don’t you just give up?

I know, that’s absurd, we can’t just give up…  can we?  But what if the problem is…   we just started from the wrong place?  What if…   why it isn’t working is because we started out wrong?  If that’s the case…   no matter what we do we can’t win, can we?  There’s no peace to be found, anywhere.  It’s a hard pill to swallow, I know, but think about it for a second…   if your thinking is off from the get go…  any ‘idea’ you come up with will be off too.  It’s no wondering the systems we’ve created, political, healthcare, penal, you name it, don’t work.  We started out wrong.  Any attempt to repair a system that doesn’t start from truth will fail.  So why don’t we just give up and start over?  Of course the mind will balk at such a proposal.  Our ‘thinking’ will dismiss this whole concept as ridiculous.  (if you continue reading this, consider yourself fortunate…  most won’t…  the authority of self doesn’t like to be questioned)

We’re raised to believe, you never, give up!  It’s our culture, if we give up we lose, we’re told.  Apparently at times, that seems true.  Here’s the question:  Is there a higher reality than apparent reality?  Is there a higher truth than what is apparent to us?  Our minds tell us no…   if I can’t see it, it’s not true.  But, aren’t we more than our minds?  Maybe it’s time we questioned that authority?

What if…   everything we will ever need we already have?  Is that possible?  Don’t think!  Just consider… is it possible that maybe we don’t know something, right from the outset, and if we knew that something consciously, everything would change?  Consider what that might mean in terms of the way we look at our life.  If you had access…  within yourself…  to answers, to any question you could possibly ask, related to your experience of life…  there would be no cause for worry, fear, anxiety, anger, jealousy, or greed…  no need to condemn or defend.

You do have that access, we all do, it is our birthright.  There are many methods available to help us live that experience.  Some involve many years of study just to make a beginning.   I’d like to offer a very simple one here, but don’t take my word for it, try it for yourself, see if it isn’t true in your experience.

Because we tried to build our life having the feeling that something was missing and we didn’t know what it was, and no one told us about it…  at least not in a form we could use.  Our foundation was insecure and that’s how we grew…  insecure.  (something’s missing and we just need a little more)

We can learn, however, to take it A.P.A.R.T. so it can come together.  I didn’t say make it happen, I said it can come together.  It can and will do it on its own.  All true paths are about removing the blocks we have created to the awareness of the presence of who we really are.

The first part in this process is:   Awareness, that something is missing.  The main indicator of awareness is pain, sometimes pleasure but primarily pain.  We don’t like a situation, person, or thing that is being presented to us… this can take unlimited forms.

Awareness does not come from the mind, it comes from something else.  That something goes by many names, the watcher, the witness, or higher self.  We all experience awareness, we just don’t often recognize it as a gift, and we fail to utilize it, so we become unconscious of it.  It’s still there we just aren’t conscious of it.  (It may be the death of a loved one… or you can’t pay the rent… it could be anything that produces the pain.)  The pain re-presents an opportunity to re-member once again, who and what, we really are.  The pay-in is the still small voice with-in, saying…   I am all of this event but this event is not all I am.  Behold, that is, just be…  feel what you need to feel…  let it go…  don’t freak out…  you’ll get through this even though you don’t think so…  and hold onto the knowing that I am with you always and in all ways.

The mind balks at this idea and may say something like; “How do I utilize this ‘gift’ of awareness, I’m in pain dammit…  what are you talking about?”.  So, awareness, as awesome as it is, doesn’t seem to do much good on its own, but it is absolutely required.

That leads us to the second part:  Pause.  Stop whatever activity, speech, and thoughts you are having.  I’m not talking ten seconds; I’m talking about sitting quietly, connecting with your breath (or anything else you have no control over or didn’t create) until you become still… calm.  Once we become still, it brings us into the present moment.

Only when we are present can we begin a conversation with that part of ourselves that is awareness.  By clearly identifying our concerns, we can Ask our question, only in relation to what, if any, our next step might be.

Sitting in the stillness, not thinking, we will Receive an answer, an insight, a thought, idea, or something.  It’s important to remember that what we receive, in all probability, will not make sense to our mind because…  it didn’t come from our mind.

The last part of the process is to Trust, what you receive, (if it’s not injurious to anyone) by taking action on it.  Will you make mistakes?  Absolutely, but by repetition, a living relationship with the truth in you is being built.

These principles applied, in that order, are what begin the process of living from a new starting point.  We begin to rely on who we really are instead of who we think we should be.  They work each and every time in that order form.  Why?  We’ve been living at the effect things have on us and we have to stop, and  be(at)cause, not effect:

…  there’s nothing to Trust if we don’t receive anything new… we can’t Receive anything new if we don’t ask… we won’t Ask if we don’t pause and let go of everything we “think” we know… we won’t Pause unless we have the awareness we need to… and we don’t become Aware unless we’re in some form of pain.

No belief is necessary, just a willingness to try the process.  The more passion, we apply to living these principles the more who we really are is revealed and a brand new world opens up to us, each and every day!

Pain is The Pay-In

A wise man once said ‘pain is the touchstone of all spiritual growth’.  I never really got that before, it seemed pretty hard to me.  Why would I want pain?  It seemed the object of life was to avoid as much pain as possible.  I mean really, who likes pain?

I began to question; what if the pain is, in actuality, the price we have to pay, our admission fee, to this thing we call life.  It’s the cost for the opportunity to express the living presence in us in physical form.  As I begin to look at life from a pay-in perspective and notice the way pain presents itself to me, I can see that it sometimes doesn’t look like pain on the surface, but underneath any emotional upset is this pain.  Underneath everything, from the death of a loved one to someone cutting me off in traffic, is pain, the cost of being alive.  Once I can accept this apparent pain, something else begins to present itself to me…  a larger view, a bigger perspective… the pain actually opens me up to a much fuller experience of life… if I don’t listen to what my mind tries to tell me about what the pain means.  Then what I find is that the pay-in has actually forced me to stop using my mind as the end all be all for my life and purchased me the entrance fee to who, in truth, I am.  I re-member, become a member once again, of who and what I am, an equal part of the whole.  One.

We are all connected… to everything… but it goes way beyond my mind’s capacity to under-stand it.  That’s what the pain is for, so I can re-member…  I am so much more than my mind.  If, rather than always trying to under-stand life from my mind’s perspective, I remember who I  am and stand-under that truth, I am then free and in harmony with all of life.

The argument that my mind comes up with every time I try this is the pain, re-presented in another form.  Another opportunity to remember, to get myself connected.   Standing under the truth of who I am I can see pain as the pay-in I gladly surrender to, recognizing it as all good…  every bit of it… it’s all God.

Right On and Left Out

I woke up struggling with problems, again.  Okay, that’s what I don’t want and I can’t seem to change it.  Breathe, get quiet, ask for the truth…  what’s really going on…. stay quiet, listen.. I mean really listen…. desperately…. pick up a pad and paper and …. something said…

You’re in your left mind Paul… you have to be in your right mind, that’s where I am is… your left mind is logical, the data sorting part… you can’t live from there… it’s only history…  I am in your right brain… it’s how I am functioning in you… it’s where I in-spire you with what you need always and in all ways.  When you are in you right mind you can receive the ideas in-formation you can then use to be who you came here to be;  a perfectly unique expression of who I am.

Your left mind is only to be used to take those actions, producing in the physical world what we desire.  That is how you are a co-creator, with who… I am.

However, your left brain logic has created a character that thinks too much.  It thinks it’s who you are.  In the physical world this, re-membering the truth, will appear to take ‘time’. As you are re-membering, in your right mind, I am building in you a new character, right along side of the one you built because you were left (brained) out.  As always you have the choice of which character you choose to build.

Your mission Paul, should you decide to accept it, is to stay in your right mind, allow me to inspire you and then take the action from the inspiration using your left brain.  Should you forget to do so, I will wait until you get in your right mind.  Good luck Paul.

And you thought God was all serious….  I created humor!

(oh, and by the way, luck is my middle name)