God uses everything to talk to me… and once in awhile I hear.

I was watching a reality show last night.  It was a dysfunctional business, like a lot of businesses.  Some employees were stealing, some hated being there at all, and others couldn’t make the tough decisions and people walked all over them.  At first I was angry.  How could they steal from their employer?  Why is this guy on a job he obviously hates?  Why is she such a wimp?  Why don’t they take any responsibility?

As the show went on, I began to look at my own life; I stole from employers, maybe not money, but I loafed a lot and didn’t give them my best, I bad mouthed places that I worked at to other employees and pretty much anyone that would listen (in very subtle ways of course), I was a boss and kept employees on that I know needed to go.  So I am every one of these people… we are the same.

The show’s mc made each person see that there was a higher purpose than their own selfish desires or feelings, it was about making it work…for everyone.  Each needed to step up and take responsibility for their actions… or get out.  It wasn’t about complying, it was about commitment and, dare I say ‘caring”.

I went to sleep last night and woke up in this morning, thinking;  why am I not living the life I want, why am I giving lousy excuses for not living my dream, why am I talking trash about other people, why am I allowing people to take up space in my life when I know they shouldn’t be there?

So here’s what I saw in the show and, one more time, in my own life.  First there is awareness, that I’m the problem.  Second I have to pause, and feel that, own it.  Third, I have to ask, ‘What is the right thing here?’ no bull.  Fourth, be honest with the answer I receive.  Fifth, I have to trust, by taking the action necessary toward what I received, no excuses.

These are universal principles that are always true, God keeps showing me them over and over again, in different ways, because I keep falling into the error of my old thinking.  It is only from our experience of what doesn’t work that most of become willing to look at what does.  (We learn best from our mistakes) In some areas we are in perfect alignment with these principles and other areas… we have a lot to learn.  It’s progress not perfection.

The overriding principle that allows for growth is; it’s not about us individually.  When we come from the group as a whole, whatever group that is, business, family, team, church, or whatever, it allows us to get out of our self-centeredness enough to receive inspiration from whatever is there when our egos are out of the picture.

It is living from our connection to the group that we gro-up!

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You Can’t Help It

I was talking with a friend today about walking in the real world, not the world as we see it with our physical eyes, but in the world as our creator sees it.  We had a conversation around asking for the right perception as we go through today’s day.  We both committed to ask for the presence that is who ‘I am’, our soul, our spirit, our savior, or just plain something (#1 name for God) to guide us and show us how to walk in this day… each step.

Now I know I won’t be able to do that perfectly, probably, if I’m  lucky (Gods nickname), I’ll remember to ask for that presence a few times today.  But, if I don’t quit, I can’t fail.  If I do it today as often as I can and I do it one day at a time, I’ll build an awareness of what it feels like.  As we walked together in this conversation, my friend said to me “I feel like I’m walking in the Garden of Eden”.  And we were, because when I let go of the “things” of the world (all my thoughts), the truth underlying them presents itself in its fullness and the world, as it was intended by its creator is revealed.

As we were saying our goodbyes, my friend was thanking me and I was thanking him and he was saying how grateful he was for our little talk.  I shouted out to him “you can’t help it”.  And you can’t help it.  The truth does not need my help.  I need to align myself with it.  When I do, I can see the world new in each moment, when I don’t and I try to help it along, I get caught in the mire and lose my awareness of love’s presence.  That’s okay, I’m going to do that, but as often as I can, I can let go and ask for that presence to be there and it will because the truth is always true, everywhere, and in all ways.  Thank you very much!

When are you going to enjoy your life?

In the documentary film, ‘I am’ by director Tom Shadyac, he asks the question, “what is wrong with the world and how do we fix it?”  That is without doubt the most important question we can ask, but where and how do we start?

I have another question, “When am I going to be happy?”, actually that’s not the question, because I’m happy when I get what I think I want, but it never lasts.  The real question is “when am I going to be joyful”, full of joy?  And the answer is… when I re-cognize that ‘who’ “I am”, is already joyous!  Joy is not outside of me.  Love is not outside of me.  Passion is not outside of me.  Nothing that is real is outside of me.  My only problem is that I have failed to recognize these things, but that does not mean they are not there.  Well if that’s true then why don’t I feel it, you ask?

First we have to recognize the way we’re doing it doesn’t work.  It’s easy to see, the world as we made it, isn’t working.  We’re going to have to do things a little differently.  We’re going to need a method that works.

Where’d it all come from?

Look around at everything you see.  How did it all come about?  If you look, you’ll find that everything started with an idea.  The idea got developed in the mind of whatever created it.  And finally became something physical by some action in the material world.  Everything that ever came into existence came as a result of that formula, including us.  So there is an order form to creation.  If there is an order form to creation then there must be an order form for our lives as well… and it’s the same  form (creation in-form-a-tion).

What’s wrong with the world?

What’s wrong with the world?  We never developed our relationship to common sense.  What is our common sense you ask?  Our common sense is the “idea” instilled (inwardly stilled) in us, of who we are, our connection to our source.  We “thought” we could disconnect ourselves from that which created us and we made ourselves into mini-gods, each trying to run the world, according to our various beliefs.  Yet none of our imaginings has any effect on that which created us.

How do we learn?

As children, we learned that our resistance to gravity had no effect on it, but by co-operating with it, it allowed us to accomplish many things.  So too, we can learn that by co-operating with our creator’s idea of who we are, there is no limit to what we can accomplish.  (“experience is the best teacher”)

How do we change?

This is transformational living, living from a new perspective, and the old beliefs don’t die easy, so we need a system that we can utilize to get us back on track when we wander off in our imaginings.  We will need to …. take it A.P.A.R.T…. so it can come together.

A.P.A.R.T. is a method that can be used to co-operate with the system (order form) that is already present.  APART is an acronym for Awareness, Pause, Ask or acknowledge, Receive or remember, and Trust or take action.  This method can be used by anyone and will work every time, even if you don’t recognize or believe it.  Why, because these are universal truths, principles, that never fail, in the proper order.  But don’t take my word for it… try them out… try them repeatedly…. They cannot fail to connect you if you apply them in your life.  (I don’t have to believe in gravity to co-operate with it… but, it gets painful when I don’t… and my world expands when I do)

We facilitate workshops and presentations for groups or individuals to help you experience these truths.  Using metaphor, creativity, and group participation we can experience these truths in a group setting!  We were created as a group and so we gro-up together!

For more information or to schedule an event contact:

Paul:  951 751-7541                      rethynkit@gmail.com                  Noel: 404 482-6428

Common Sense

Why do we call it common sense anyway… it doesn’t seem to be so common?  It’s just doing the right thing.  I know I have common sense… but I’ve been in survival mode for so long… I mix up  my instincts with what, I sense, is right.  At first I couldn’t see how that happened.  But, once I became willing to seriously look at it, it wasn’t so hard to understand.  But I have to tell you… my instincts sure don’t want to look at it.

I started with some basics, things I just know.  I know no one should go hungry… be homeless… or go without medical care… nobody had to tell me that.  But “what can one person do?” my mind reasoned.  It’s so overwhelming… just asking the question feels so… hopeless.  My instincts pop up and justify my not even looking at the question…  and so, I feel bad for “those people” who are struggling… if I have extra (a very relative term), I’m willing to help out… so long as I don’t have to give up my stuff… or any of “my” time.  Such is the way I fall into “us vs. them” mentality.  Now I ask you, ‘where’s the “common” in that?’.

That’s what instinctual living does.  I use my reasoning mind to try to make sense out of my behavior… but my ‘common sense’ knows better.  Why?  Because common sense doesn’t belong to me… it’s what’s common in all of us…  it’s what makes us human beingsnot just human doings.  It’s the sense of unity that we all have… whether we like it or not.

Growing up, I was taught to… rise above the crowd… get to the top… distinguish myself… be a winner… get ahead… and basically, be anything but… ‘common’.  Without common sense as my guide I tried to live by my instincts… and the instincts drove me further away from my commonality with my fellow-man.  The further I separated myself from my fellows… the less my life made sense.  Coming to ‘my senses’ means remembering what is common to all of humanity, and living from that place.  It requires no thought!

“So what is this thing called humanity anyway?”, I asked myself.  A group of people.  And I began to look at the “group” instead of my individual life.  Then I looked up the word group and found a couple of definitions:

  1. many components gathered together for a purpose
  2. many parts that make up a whole.

From this new perspective, we’re all just “a” part of the human group.  We are… many components gathered together for a purpose… that make up the whole… humanity.  It doesn’t require agreement… it only requires co-operation.  It simple, is.  We can choose not to cooperate with it… just like we can choose not to cooperate with gravity… but, eventually  it gets very painful…

So how do we begin to live using our common sense?

“taking it A.P.A.R.T. … so it can come together” is a method that can be used by anyone to learn to reconnect with what’s been missing in our lives, what we have in common.  Knowing about common sense is one thing, living by it requires tools, because we’ve built our character instinctively, not intuitively.  There are many methods that offer these ‘tools’.  Here is a simple one that really works:

A.wareness that something isn’t right.  P.ause and let go of everything I think I know, become still.  A.sk that part of me that is common to all the other parts.  R.eceive via inspiration, what is there already.  T.rust and take action on that inspiration.

Give it a try… try it a few times… try it when it hurts… slow it down… it works every time… the only time it doesn’t work is when I don’t apply it!

  If you’d like more information on how to apply this method in your life, or to schedule a workshop, email us at:  rethynkit@gmail.com

Common sense is what makes us sane.  Living by anything else is just plain insanity.

Just Give Up! (and begin again, new)

Aren’t you tired of working so hard…  trying to do better… trying to change… trying to get ahead… ahead of what?  Who?  Where are you going?  Do you think you’ll be happy when and if you get there?  It’s exhausting, isn’t it?  Is life supposed to be this hard?   Why don’t you just give up?

I know, that’s absurd, we can’t just give up…  can we?  But what if the problem is…   we just started from the wrong place?  What if…   why it isn’t working is because we started out wrong?  If that’s the case…   no matter what we do we can’t win, can we?  There’s no peace to be found, anywhere.  It’s a hard pill to swallow, I know, but think about it for a second…   if your thinking is off from the get go…  any ‘idea’ you come up with will be off too.  It’s no wondering the systems we’ve created, political, healthcare, penal, you name it, don’t work.  We started out wrong.  Any attempt to repair a system that doesn’t start from truth will fail.  So why don’t we just give up and start over?  Of course the mind will balk at such a proposal.  Our ‘thinking’ will dismiss this whole concept as ridiculous.  (if you continue reading this, consider yourself fortunate…  most won’t…  the authority of self doesn’t like to be questioned)

We’re raised to believe, you never, give up!  It’s our culture, if we give up we lose, we’re told.  Apparently at times, that seems true.  Here’s the question:  Is there a higher reality than apparent reality?  Is there a higher truth than what is apparent to us?  Our minds tell us no…   if I can’t see it, it’s not true.  But, aren’t we more than our minds?  Maybe it’s time we questioned that authority?

What if…   everything we will ever need we already have?  Is that possible?  Don’t think!  Just consider… is it possible that maybe we don’t know something, right from the outset, and if we knew that something consciously, everything would change?  Consider what that might mean in terms of the way we look at our life.  If you had access…  within yourself…  to answers, to any question you could possibly ask, related to your experience of life…  there would be no cause for worry, fear, anxiety, anger, jealousy, or greed…  no need to condemn or defend.

You do have that access, we all do, it is our birthright.  There are many methods available to help us live that experience.  Some involve many years of study just to make a beginning.   I’d like to offer a very simple one here, but don’t take my word for it, try it for yourself, see if it isn’t true in your experience.

Because we tried to build our life having the feeling that something was missing and we didn’t know what it was, and no one told us about it…  at least not in a form we could use.  Our foundation was insecure and that’s how we grew…  insecure.  (something’s missing and we just need a little more)

We can learn, however, to take it A.P.A.R.T. so it can come together.  I didn’t say make it happen, I said it can come together.  It can and will do it on its own.  All true paths are about removing the blocks we have created to the awareness of the presence of who we really are.

The first part in this process is:   Awareness, that something is missing.  The main indicator of awareness is pain, sometimes pleasure but primarily pain.  We don’t like a situation, person, or thing that is being presented to us… this can take unlimited forms.

Awareness does not come from the mind, it comes from something else.  That something goes by many names, the watcher, the witness, or higher self.  We all experience awareness, we just don’t often recognize it as a gift, and we fail to utilize it, so we become unconscious of it.  It’s still there we just aren’t conscious of it.  (It may be the death of a loved one… or you can’t pay the rent… it could be anything that produces the pain.)  The pain re-presents an opportunity to re-member once again, who and what, we really are.  The pay-in is the still small voice with-in, saying…   I am all of this event but this event is not all I am.  Behold, that is, just be…  feel what you need to feel…  let it go…  don’t freak out…  you’ll get through this even though you don’t think so…  and hold onto the knowing that I am with you always and in all ways.

The mind balks at this idea and may say something like; “How do I utilize this ‘gift’ of awareness, I’m in pain dammit…  what are you talking about?”.  So, awareness, as awesome as it is, doesn’t seem to do much good on its own, but it is absolutely required.

That leads us to the second part:  Pause.  Stop whatever activity, speech, and thoughts you are having.  I’m not talking ten seconds; I’m talking about sitting quietly, connecting with your breath (or anything else you have no control over or didn’t create) until you become still… calm.  Once we become still, it brings us into the present moment.

Only when we are present can we begin a conversation with that part of ourselves that is awareness.  By clearly identifying our concerns, we can Ask our question, only in relation to what, if any, our next step might be.

Sitting in the stillness, not thinking, we will Receive an answer, an insight, a thought, idea, or something.  It’s important to remember that what we receive, in all probability, will not make sense to our mind because…  it didn’t come from our mind.

The last part of the process is to Trust, what you receive, (if it’s not injurious to anyone) by taking action on it.  Will you make mistakes?  Absolutely, but by repetition, a living relationship with the truth in you is being built.

These principles applied, in that order, are what begin the process of living from a new starting point.  We begin to rely on who we really are instead of who we think we should be.  They work each and every time in that order form.  Why?  We’ve been living at the effect things have on us and we have to stop, and  be(at)cause, not effect:

…  there’s nothing to Trust if we don’t receive anything new… we can’t Receive anything new if we don’t ask… we won’t Ask if we don’t pause and let go of everything we “think” we know… we won’t Pause unless we have the awareness we need to… and we don’t become Aware unless we’re in some form of pain.

No belief is necessary, just a willingness to try the process.  The more passion, we apply to living these principles the more who we really are is revealed and a brand new world opens up to us, each and every day!

Used to Be and Used to Have

I am not who I “used to be”.  I ‘used’ people, places, and things to ‘be’ who I “thought” I should be.  When the things I used were taken away, nothing was left.  Or so I thought.  Turns out, who “I am” is infinitely more than I ever thought I could be.  Most of us are afraid of our own power, not our personal power but the real power that operates in us, through us, and as us.  How could that be, you ask?

Imagine, if you will, all of us, each and every one, constantly being inspired with new thoughts and ideas from our creator.  As children we began to receive these inspirations.  Remember now, they’re brand new, never been on the planet before.  We try to express these ideas to someone, our parents, maybe.  But to them, these ideas sound strange, they never heard anything like them before of course, because they’re new.  Our parents go to their brain (the database of info) and the brain says, ‘ridiculous, nothing like that here’.  So your parents turn to you and say something like “don’t be ridiculous, that’s a crazy idea”.

We don’t want to be looked at as crazy, so we push the idea away…  this doesn’t just happen one time…  over and over again…  don’t be stupid… you’re crazy…  that will never work… or, my personal favorite “who do you think you are?”.  All of this of course makes us question the truth moving through us and we begin to separate ourselves from who we are and we learn to shut of the inspiration.  We can’t really do this but we can dismiss it as “ridiculous” instantly, using our brain’s programmed logic.  Internally, we “know” something is missing and we begin the game of trying to find that ‘something’ outside of ourselves.

I “used to have” a lot of things.  I “used” people, places, and things so I could “have” what I thought would make me happy (although my ego was very good at hiding this).  If only I had more money, property, prestige, more people loved me, more sex, ad infinitum.  You get the picture.  It never works for very long.

The bottom line, we’re afraid.  Afraid of who we really are.  Afraid of a power, that power, that I am presence that is our very source, the power that beats our heart and breathes our breath, call it what you will.  We “think” the power is outside of ourselves.  In that character we made from our imagined reality, we feel unworthy of its presence.  We try to project that power outside of our self and then judge our self with our own projection.  Insane, isn’t it. (so our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making… although we usually don’t think so)  Check your own track record.  See if it isn’t true in your life.

The character (ego) that we made doesn’t give up easily.  It will try to deny these accusations.  Like weeds, the ego just wants to survive, but if we don’t want weeds in our yard or our ego running our life anymore we have to recognize, and get rid of them every time they pop up.  But just like ridding the yard of weeds doesn’t create the yard we desire, we have to put the things we love in, so we can create that life we desire.  It’s important to remember, however:  there’s only One Garden.

The creativity that is who I am needs to co-operate with the creativity of that I am presence in you to produce what our creator intended us to experience.  Every aspect of creation is equally important and necessary.  You already know this.  I am simple re-minding you in case you temporarily forgot, so you can re-mind me when I do.

The Twelve Steps are a method I apply that can remove the weeds from my garden, there are countless others.  If you seek out a method you will find it.  Seek out an experienced gardener that uses that method and learn from them.  You may even create your own method although that’s a lot more difficult.  If you do, do it with a friend, because the ego can’t see itself.

In moments of self-doubt, when the world tells you you’re crazy and nothing makes sense, and you don’t think you’ll make it, and you can’t remember anything you’ve ever read:

Be still and know, “I am God!” and “I am with you always!”

We Are Love

I’ve heard it said that if we could actually be touched by God we wouldn’t be able to handle it.  It would overwhelm our physical body and blow out our senses.  Too much love to handle?  Could there be such a thing?  It’s hard to conceive of that much love.  Perhaps that’s what happens to us when we suddenly, and often for no apparent reason, have an emotional recognition of beauty or love and we’re touched by the spirit or God within.  It overwhelms us.  We jump into our heads to try to figure out what happened and we dismiss it as a ‘miracle’.

Our heads tell us we are separate from that love and so, unworthy of it.  We won’t consider the possibility that, that love,  is who we really are.  We believe our minds when they present us with all the seeming evidence as to why we aren’t love.  We cannot grasp that love goes way beyond the capacity of the mind to understand it, and so we live in an imagined reality.  We actually choose to go into the darkness of something that isn’t true rather than accept the truth, we are love.  Our choice doesn’t change the truth however; it does block our awareness of it.

Let me share an experience I had recently:  I was struggling with some financial matters, taxes, the AC went out in my car, a traffic fine, an unstable income, etc.  I intellectually know that I’m connected to my creator and can’t possibly lose that connection because it is who I am but the seeming evidence of a lack of money was all I could see.  In fact that was what my mind was obsessing about.  However it didn’t stop there.  Once I went into the darkness of what my mind was telling me, it got worse.  My mind literally attacked me with the ‘evidence’ of, not only was I broke, I was a failure, everybody knew it and it was just a matter of time before I’m homeless.  (In the absence of truth, the illusion seems real)

It shook me.  I’d been there before many times and knew it wasn’t true but still I doubted the truth of who I am.  I got up the next morning and wanted to act out in a way that I knew wouldn’t help.  Instead, I began a conversation with my higher Self.  I asked the question “What is the real problem here?”   I picked up a pen and paper and what came to me was:

“The only problem I ever have is… I miss my Self”.

My higher Self is the piece (peace) of God in me.  When I walk into the darkness of my mind’s illusions, I forget who I am and … I miss my Self.  I am literally “beside my Self” and I think I’m someone I’m not.

The sudden recognition of the truth, that I am love, flooded over me, washing away all my illusions as I wept in joy (enjoy) … it was so powerful…    my mind told me it was too much… I just laughed… it just kept coming… and I let it… laughing and crying as I walked down the road.

Nothing in my outer world changed, yet my entire being changed.  The grace of God is not outside of me and when I let go, I experience it as my life.

It was then that the words from the method I practice came to mind:

out of every season of grief or suffering, when the hand of God seemed heavy or even unjust, new lessons for living were learned, new resources of courage were uncovered, and that finally, inescapably, the conviction came that God does “move in a mysterious way His wonders to perform”.