I was watching a reality show last night. It was a dysfunctional business, like a lot of businesses. Some employees were stealing, some hated being there at all, and others couldn’t make the tough decisions and people walked all over them. At first I was angry. How could they steal from their employer? Why is this guy on a job he obviously hates? Why is she such a wimp? Why don’t they take any responsibility?
As the show went on, I began to look at my own life; I stole from employers, maybe not money, but I loafed a lot and didn’t give them my best, I bad mouthed places that I worked at to other employees and pretty much anyone that would listen (in very subtle ways of course), I was a boss and kept employees on that I know needed to go. So I am every one of these people… we are the same.
The show’s mc made each person see that there was a higher purpose than their own selfish desires or feelings, it was about making it work…for everyone. Each needed to step up and take responsibility for their actions… or get out. It wasn’t about complying, it was about commitment and, dare I say ‘caring”.
I went to sleep last night and woke up in this morning, thinking; why am I not living the life I want, why am I giving lousy excuses for not living my dream, why am I talking trash about other people, why am I allowing people to take up space in my life when I know they shouldn’t be there?
So here’s what I saw in the show and, one more time, in my own life. First there is awareness, that I’m the problem. Second I have to pause, and feel that, own it. Third, I have to ask, ‘What is the right thing here?’ no bull. Fourth, be honest with the answer I receive. Fifth, I have to trust, by taking the action necessary toward what I received, no excuses.
These are universal principles that are always true, God keeps showing me them over and over again, in different ways, because I keep falling into the error of my old thinking. It is only from our experience of what doesn’t work that most of become willing to look at what does. (We learn best from our mistakes) In some areas we are in perfect alignment with these principles and other areas… we have a lot to learn. It’s progress not perfection.
The overriding principle that allows for growth is; it’s not about us individually. When we come from the group as a whole, whatever group that is, business, family, team, church, or whatever, it allows us to get out of our self-centeredness enough to receive inspiration from whatever is there when our egos are out of the picture.
It is living from our connection to the group that we gro-up!