God uses everything to talk to me… and once in awhile I hear.

I was watching a reality show last night.  It was a dysfunctional business, like a lot of businesses.  Some employees were stealing, some hated being there at all, and others couldn’t make the tough decisions and people walked all over them.  At first I was angry.  How could they steal from their employer?  Why is this guy on a job he obviously hates?  Why is she such a wimp?  Why don’t they take any responsibility?

As the show went on, I began to look at my own life; I stole from employers, maybe not money, but I loafed a lot and didn’t give them my best, I bad mouthed places that I worked at to other employees and pretty much anyone that would listen (in very subtle ways of course), I was a boss and kept employees on that I know needed to go.  So I am every one of these people… we are the same.

The show’s mc made each person see that there was a higher purpose than their own selfish desires or feelings, it was about making it work…for everyone.  Each needed to step up and take responsibility for their actions… or get out.  It wasn’t about complying, it was about commitment and, dare I say ‘caring”.

I went to sleep last night and woke up in this morning, thinking;  why am I not living the life I want, why am I giving lousy excuses for not living my dream, why am I talking trash about other people, why am I allowing people to take up space in my life when I know they shouldn’t be there?

So here’s what I saw in the show and, one more time, in my own life.  First there is awareness, that I’m the problem.  Second I have to pause, and feel that, own it.  Third, I have to ask, ‘What is the right thing here?’ no bull.  Fourth, be honest with the answer I receive.  Fifth, I have to trust, by taking the action necessary toward what I received, no excuses.

These are universal principles that are always true, God keeps showing me them over and over again, in different ways, because I keep falling into the error of my old thinking.  It is only from our experience of what doesn’t work that most of become willing to look at what does.  (We learn best from our mistakes) In some areas we are in perfect alignment with these principles and other areas… we have a lot to learn.  It’s progress not perfection.

The overriding principle that allows for growth is; it’s not about us individually.  When we come from the group as a whole, whatever group that is, business, family, team, church, or whatever, it allows us to get out of our self-centeredness enough to receive inspiration from whatever is there when our egos are out of the picture.

It is living from our connection to the group that we gro-up!

Scales From My Eyes

Most of my life, I never question what my mind tells me.  I like this, I don’t like that, this person is okay and that one’s an asshole.  I never questioned the authority of self… the mind that tells me what’s what.  What I find is that when I do question “my truth” I open up to a much larger truth.

I use my eyesight to navigate in the world and my perception is always accurate, to me.  You might say it’s my ‘truth’.  But that doesn’t make it “the” truth, it’s just my truth based on my life experiences.  My perception of what “the” truth is, is often distorted by some of my experiences. We each have our own perceptions based on our experiences.  But, you have to admit, our perception is sometimes distorted.  Our distorted perception has put scales in front of our eyes.  So let’s call our perception the ‘distorted truth’.

Underneath the distorted truth is apparent truth?  Apparent truth is what is apparently so.  Let’s say it’s 80 degrees outside.  That may be hot for some, nice for others, comfortable, uncomfortable, whatever but the apparent truth, it’s 80 degrees.  My eyesight, my opinion, or my distorted truth, has no effect on apparent truth, it’s just what it is, 80 degrees.  When I let go of the consciousness of what my distorted truth is telling me, I rise to what is apparently true and, I come closer to “the” truth.

With Awareness …that there just might be something more than apparent truth …and the willingness to Pause …and let go of what seems apparent,  I can let go of my worldly perception… (more scales from my eyes)… and begin to look from a new perspective …insight …Inner sight!  Instead of use my eyes with all their scales, I can Ask for a new perception, a new vision of what the truth is.  And I shall Receive.

Why?  Because, deep down in every man, woman, and child is the fundamental idea of God… in the end, it is only there that it can be found.  When I ask that part of me for the new perception …what I then receive …doesn’t come from my mind …or the world’s view …it comes from the core of my being… God.  Creation itself.  And It’s always brand new… so it rarely seems like the right answer to me …because it didn’t come from my mind.

The question is not, will I receive.  The question is always, will I Trust enough to take action on what I receive, in spite of my eyesight and what seems apparent?

Do I ever misinterpret the messages I receive?  Absolutely, but this is a method I have found that really works!  Even when I make mistakes, it builds my relationship with my creator.  Not a theoretical or intellectual one …an actual living …day-to-day …personal relationship that grows stronger each day. And as the scales fall away, I begin to remember …who …I am.  And then I remember who you are …we are no longer separate or apart from …we are a part of the whole.  I find the word ‘holy’ a very interesting word.  My definition is:  The conscious recognition that we are equal parts of the one whole. We are One.

So anytime you don’t like how you’re feeling, try …  Taking it A.P.A.R.T.  … so it can come together!

For more info on the APART method or to schedule a talk or workshop please contact me at:

paul@possidude.com  or (951) 751-7541

Common Sense

Why do we call it common sense anyway… it doesn’t seem to be so common?  It’s just doing the right thing.  I know I have common sense… but I’ve been in survival mode for so long… I mix up  my instincts with what, I sense, is right.  At first I couldn’t see how that happened.  But, once I became willing to seriously look at it, it wasn’t so hard to understand.  But I have to tell you… my instincts sure don’t want to look at it.

I started with some basics, things I just know.  I know no one should go hungry… be homeless… or go without medical care… nobody had to tell me that.  But “what can one person do?” my mind reasoned.  It’s so overwhelming… just asking the question feels so… hopeless.  My instincts pop up and justify my not even looking at the question…  and so, I feel bad for “those people” who are struggling… if I have extra (a very relative term), I’m willing to help out… so long as I don’t have to give up my stuff… or any of “my” time.  Such is the way I fall into “us vs. them” mentality.  Now I ask you, ‘where’s the “common” in that?’.

That’s what instinctual living does.  I use my reasoning mind to try to make sense out of my behavior… but my ‘common sense’ knows better.  Why?  Because common sense doesn’t belong to me… it’s what’s common in all of us…  it’s what makes us human beingsnot just human doings.  It’s the sense of unity that we all have… whether we like it or not.

Growing up, I was taught to… rise above the crowd… get to the top… distinguish myself… be a winner… get ahead… and basically, be anything but… ‘common’.  Without common sense as my guide I tried to live by my instincts… and the instincts drove me further away from my commonality with my fellow-man.  The further I separated myself from my fellows… the less my life made sense.  Coming to ‘my senses’ means remembering what is common to all of humanity, and living from that place.  It requires no thought!

“So what is this thing called humanity anyway?”, I asked myself.  A group of people.  And I began to look at the “group” instead of my individual life.  Then I looked up the word group and found a couple of definitions:

  1. many components gathered together for a purpose
  2. many parts that make up a whole.

From this new perspective, we’re all just “a” part of the human group.  We are… many components gathered together for a purpose… that make up the whole… humanity.  It doesn’t require agreement… it only requires co-operation.  It simple, is.  We can choose not to cooperate with it… just like we can choose not to cooperate with gravity… but, eventually  it gets very painful…

So how do we begin to live using our common sense?

“taking it A.P.A.R.T. … so it can come together” is a method that can be used by anyone to learn to reconnect with what’s been missing in our lives, what we have in common.  Knowing about common sense is one thing, living by it requires tools, because we’ve built our character instinctively, not intuitively.  There are many methods that offer these ‘tools’.  Here is a simple one that really works:

A.wareness that something isn’t right.  P.ause and let go of everything I think I know, become still.  A.sk that part of me that is common to all the other parts.  R.eceive via inspiration, what is there already.  T.rust and take action on that inspiration.

Give it a try… try it a few times… try it when it hurts… slow it down… it works every time… the only time it doesn’t work is when I don’t apply it!

  If you’d like more information on how to apply this method in your life, or to schedule a workshop, email us at:  rethynkit@gmail.com

Common sense is what makes us sane.  Living by anything else is just plain insanity.

Self-evident Truths

We hold these truths to be Self-Evident… that all men are created equal…but why don’t we live that way?  The self we’ve been using is the smaller self.  It’s the person we think we are, with all the vast intelligence and self-centered, ego fed crap that we say we “believe”.  The illusive character behind the scenes that causes all our problems.  The mind powered computer that disconnects us from the truth of who we are, with all of it’s logic, schemes, and plans.  And yet, with all that.. we all, still know… at least on some level…no one should go hungry… we shouldn’t hurt each other.  Basic truths, we all know, but not from our mind, the source of the smaller self… but from our Soul… the higher Self.

It doesn’t take a genius to see we are all disconnected from our souls.  We’ve gone so far over board in developing our intellect, we’ve totally forgotten, who we really are.   Self-Evident truths never change… but we can refuse to re-cognize them… which we have all done… otherwise we’d be living them.  To go up against the norm is tough… it’s easier, we think, at least for the time being, to just go along with the game… make sure I get my share (although it’s always a little short of what I think I want)… and not think about how unbalanced it is.  But it’s getting late for all of us.   We are killing our chances of surviving as a species.  Oh, I know, it sounds so dramatic!  But the truth is so simple… we just won’t apply it!

It’s gonna take all of us, but it starts with just a few… how do we get connected?  We have been living apart for so many generations…. how do we go from living apart to being a part?  Equal parts of the One whole.

My friend Noel and I were inspired to create a workshop series on just how to re-member(become a member once again) of who we really are.  We call it: taking it A.P.A.R.T. so it can come together.  Living from Self-Evident truths is a lot easier than “thinking about it”.  When we be who we are, what we do is in harmony… when we think we’re what we’re not, we only do harm.

We have a unique and fun way of re-presenting truths in which participants actual experience them…  it’s not just information…  it’s application.  And that makes all the difference!

If you’d like to try a workshop send us your email and we’ll put you on our mailing list for workshops in your area.  And if you’re in the southern California area and would like to do a workshop for your organization, event, or group, please, email me your information and I’d be happy to talk to you about what we do.  paul@possidude.com

It’s Time to … get yourself connected!

Recreation (take five)

Here’s what five minutes of meditation brought me this morning.

My thought life is unmanageable.  There is no way I can be satisfied by what my mind comes up with by itself.  What does that mean?  It means I am more than my mind.  Who I am is a three-part being, soul, mind, and body.  Because I never developed my soul, I try to figure out my life with my mind alone… bypass my soul…  and take action with my body.  I’m constantly chasing my tail.  I have to let go of my thoughts and allow who(?) I am, to be there.  The spiritual man.

Nothing I know from the neck up will save me.  What am I being saved from?  My mis-taken beliefs of who, “I think”, I am!

I get quiet…  use my words… to ask that presence… that is who… I am… to stop my thoughts… move into my heart…  feel that presence beating my heart…  breathing my breath.  When I feel that presence…  I am open to receive…   ideas…  flowing from my source… which inspires (inwardly spirits) my mind…  to create that which I am here to create.  My mind… is myend… of the one mind (of God).  When I pause…  and re-member who, I am…  creation expresses itself through me…  to create…  in harmony with other myends…  the world…  as creation intends it to be.

Now that I am in my heart…  inspirit-a-tion is flowing in…  as…  and through me.  I can take action…  using my body and mind, in the physical world…  to put these words on paper… to re-mind you…  to re-member…  who you are.  However, I’m still new at this.  I have an undisciplined mind… it runs on its own… most of the time… I disconnect from inspiration… the source of my creation… all day long…  and try to live on myend power alone.  When that happens…  I experience pain… discomfort… negativity… I have temporarily forgotten who I am.  I need you…whoever you are…  to re-mind me… of who… I am.  We are not a-lone, we are all-one!  We need… each… other.   Let’s co-operate and re-create together…  the world…  as it was always intended to be.

Join us for a little recreation… as we utilize percussion instruments in a drum circle setting to re-cognize, how to get, and stay, connected… both  individually… and collectively… to the one whole…

Send your email address to paul@possidude.com to get on our mailing list.  We’ll let you know where, in the southern California area, you can “get yourself connected”.

Till then just… take five……

How to Change the World

We are a nation, a world for that matter, of consumers and to that extent we are all self-absorbed.  Our own desires come first.  We have lost our connection to our group, the group called human beings.

I’m not saying we can’t have stuff, but how much is enough?  Instead of looking at those that have more and asking how can I get that?  We might try looking at those that have less and ask, how can I best help balance it out a bit, in some small way?  And I don’t mean donating cash to try to buy our way out of looking at the problems the world faces.  I’m talking, actually going and looking at one of those problems face to face and asking, what would the right thing to do be?  How might I make a tiny difference?

I believe we don’t look or ask those questions because we can’t see an answer at first glance, so we don’t think there is one.  Then we get overwhelmed and refuse to look because it hurts.  We go back to our separated lives and try to buy more stuff to fill the hole where the hurt is; the new car, home, TV, cell phone, or whatever.  It seems to work for a while, but if you’re honest with yourself, you know it doesn’t last.  We always need a better one or the new one that just came out.

Imagine this:

Whenever we want to make a purchase for x amount, we are required to go look at one of society’s problems first.  Really look at the problem and ask ourselves what should we do about this?  From all the ideas that people come up with, only those that would benefit everyone get entered into a database.  The database stores them by topic and everyone that looks at that topic has access to all of the existing ideas.  Each person then would either add to an existing idea or present a new one.  In this way we would find solutions together based on what benefits everyone in the group…  all of us.

If you still decide to buy the new whatever it is, you would have at least taken a serious look at how you might help, which starts the change from self-centered to group centered behavior.  Even that little bit helps connect us to each other.  No one is going to come up with an answer…  it must come from all of us!

It’s a beginning….

How are you Doing?

A familiar question no doubt, but is it the right question?  When did what I’m doing become more important than what I’m being?  After all, I am a human being, not a human doing.  I often don’t remember to ask myself ‘how am I being?’.  Do you ever ask yourself that question?   We get all caught up in what we’re doing, or not doing, and we forget all about being.  We joke about stopping and smelling the coffee, but how often do we actually do it?

Whenever I take the time to just be…  I become aware.  I smell, touch, taste, hear, and see everything with a new vision.  I experience my be-ing.  When I let myself be who I am in any given moment, I be-come a part of life experiencing itself as me.  In other words…  I am who I was created to be… no doing is required.

When nothing is required I am free to experience my being in its fullness.  In those moments I often experience what has been written: “ I am come that you may experience life more abundantly”.  That, I am presence is who, underneath all our doing, we truly are.  This presence is not to be con-fused with our thin-king of who we are.  We are not the egoic image of a separated self, detached from its source, begging mercy from a judgmental creator that stands above, beyond, and separate from his creation.   For behold, “I am in all things”.

When I pause…  stop doing… stop thinking… simple ask “who am I”… and become still… “be still and know I am God”.  Not all of God, but part of… not apart from.  I am re-minded…  “it is your father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom. “  In that secret place… my soul… which is the king(s)dom(icle).    All I need do is just be(and then)hold:  “for be-hold the kingdom of heaven is within”.

My definition of being is simply the action of accepting what is. Only when my doing is in alignment with my being do I truly re-present who… “ I am”.